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Invite Vent!!
Sorry have to vent to people that may know what I am going through.
So back story, FI & I live in WA state but have a lot of family in MN and will be getting married there in August. I have been in communication with my step mom a lot regarding wedding stuff since they live there.
I have been planning a smaller wedding with just close family & friends, I have told ALL parents involved about this and everyone knows who I wanted to invite. My dad's family is huge (aunts, uncles, first cousins & their kids over 100 people) so I told both my dad & step mom that I will be inviting all aunts & uncles but will limit to cousins & kids that I am closest to(who I grew up with, still talk to through calls, emails, facebook etc.), I also was inviting a select few that parents wanted(step moms parents, sister, & grandma, My moms closest aunts & cousins). Everyone has known this list from the beginning. So why today the day before I am going to send out invites do I get an email from my step mom with some addresses that I needed and a note at the bottom that says "We are going to a family reunion on June 4th and people may be talking about your wedding. I just wanted to touch base with you, to see if you wanted to invite other cousins, such as Darlene’s kids and Donna’s. Darlene’s are very fun and possibly could limit to adults only – no kids… not sure what you think." Also another note that says "My mom did comment at Easter, that my aunt and uncle and their kid’s and families all wanted to come to the wedding." Are you kidding me!! Ugh NO!!! You have known my guest list from the beginning! Arrggg I just want to scream - if I hadn't invested so much money into this wedding already we would be eloping!! I am so irritated right now. I think that if people really think about it, the cousins & other family that I am not inviting I have not seen or talked to in 5+ years or I don't even know them. There is a huge age difference with these people, they were all adults and having kids when I was a kid. I don't know what to do. FI says no we are inviting who we want and they knew from the beginning. We are paying for everything our selves, we are hosting it our selves, we did get some money but it was because they gave it to my sister also. Arrggghhh
I did offer to send dad's family invites after the family reunion so they don't get questions.
Thanks for listening!!
THANKS FOR LISTENING!!
So back story, FI & I live in WA state but have a lot of family in MN and will be getting married there in August. I have been in communication with my step mom a lot regarding wedding stuff since they live there.
I have been planning a smaller wedding with just close family & friends, I have told ALL parents involved about this and everyone knows who I wanted to invite. My dad's family is huge (aunts, uncles, first cousins & their kids over 100 people) so I told both my dad & step mom that I will be inviting all aunts & uncles but will limit to cousins & kids that I am closest to(who I grew up with, still talk to through calls, emails, facebook etc.), I also was inviting a select few that parents wanted(step moms parents, sister, & grandma, My moms closest aunts & cousins). Everyone has known this list from the beginning. So why today the day before I am going to send out invites do I get an email from my step mom with some addresses that I needed and a note at the bottom that says "We are going to a family reunion on June 4th and people may be talking about your wedding. I just wanted to touch base with you, to see if you wanted to invite other cousins, such as Darlene’s kids and Donna’s. Darlene’s are very fun and possibly could limit to adults only – no kids… not sure what you think." Also another note that says "My mom did comment at Easter, that my aunt and uncle and their kid’s and families all wanted to come to the wedding." Are you kidding me!! Ugh NO!!! You have known my guest list from the beginning! Arrggg I just want to scream - if I hadn't invested so much money into this wedding already we would be eloping!! I am so irritated right now. I think that if people really think about it, the cousins & other family that I am not inviting I have not seen or talked to in 5+ years or I don't even know them. There is a huge age difference with these people, they were all adults and having kids when I was a kid. I don't know what to do. FI says no we are inviting who we want and they knew from the beginning. We are paying for everything our selves, we are hosting it our selves, we did get some money but it was because they gave it to my sister also. Arrggghhh
I did offer to send dad's family invites after the family reunion so they don't get questions.
Thanks for listening!!
THANKS FOR LISTENING!!
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Re: Invite Vent!!
I'm in the same boat only FMIL's requests came a week before RSVPs were due back to us.....I feel your pain:)