My soon to be fiance had been putting money down on an amazing ring that he really wanted me to have when he asked me to marry him. I told him that I didn't need anything fancy but then he found this ring and asked me to look at it and wow. Recently his son has told us he wants to come live with us, which is going to mean a court fight with his mother so I told my guy to go get the money he had paid on my ring for lawyers. He didn't want to but we knew it was right to do. Now I am looking at something cheap just so that we can finally officially say we are engaged (because he won't ask until I have a ring). My question about the ring is this....is it ok if I want something with a citrine stone as an engagement ring? I know that later down the line I will have the diamond he wants to get me but in the mean time I think the ring I found will be pretty and on my ring finger still says taken. Am I wrong?
My second question is about the actual wedding. My beloved is in the Air Force and is stationed 8 - 13 hours from any of our family. It is our understanding that we have to get married here in our state for it to be recognized and asking everyone to travel here is kind of a lot. We are thinking about getting married here in a very small ceremony and then in a year having a wedding and reception. I fear people won't come if they know we are married already, but my future in-laws say we don't have to tell anyone we already got married ... so confused.