I spoke to one of my best friend ( a male) yesterday about the issue with the BM not planning anything for my FI. He (my friend) told me to text him the BM's number and he would call and ask him if he had anything plan because he would like to be apart of it. I don't like giving out numbers without permission so, I called the BM and told him my friend ( a male) would like to join in there festivies since he knows my FI and would not be doing "girly" things with me. The BM explain that everything he brought up to my FI he shot down.
That's because it was things that my FI does not do ( strip clubs and partying). So I told him my suggestion is bowling ( FI loves bowling) my male friends is paintballing. They are now planning something for MY FI and all is well.
P.S Me and Rob my male best friend have an agreement that his wife and my FH are our bestfriends, I just called him my bestfriend up here because I wanted to tell the story.