I've been a lurker of this board but I never post. Most of the stuff doesn't make sense to me. lol. Sorry if this turns into a rant with a question at the end....
I'm not Catholic but my FI is, as is his whole family. So generally, I've no idea what's going on. We are having our wedding at his childhood church with his childhood priest. (This guy is 77. When is the retirement age?! Geez.) Well, anyway, he is really busy at his parish because it is a really big church and he has only one other priest there but they usually run with three. Every time I call him, he doesn't want to talk. He finds some excuse to get off the phone. Never calls me, ever, unless he's only returning a call. He never wants to answer any of my questions. Mind, we'll have to talk about them sooner or later but it is really putting me in an odd position with other vendors (like the organist and the photographer). I can understand that he is busy but geez. So he Finally returned my call yesterday (after a week of waiting) and he tells me that 'our FOCCUS test leaves something to be desired.' And we are going to be meeting next week. We haven't given him any of our paperwork just yet. This will be our second meeting since the engagement. The first meeting, he told us about the paperwork we needed and about pre-cana. We did pre-cana the week after that and the paperwork was easy to get, but he didn't want to meet up until March.
Is this normal? How many meetings do yall have with your priest before the wedding? Is there a way to 'fail' your FOCCUS? Will he require something else since we did, apparantly, badly? I'm sorry that this is a rant as well as a question but his parents (who go to that church) are used to his behaviors. I spoke to the receptionist, who is a customer of mine, and she agrees that he is short-tempered so it probably isn't just me, but it is aggravating. I like organization and I'm hating that this isn't going as smoothly as I would like.