Let me start by saying, I'm not a big fan of following etiquette. Customs and traditions vary too widely for us all to be judging each other by the same standard, in my opinion. That being said, I still don't want to be openly rude to anybody. I figure I many not always know what is right, but I most always know what is kind. And rudeness usually hurts somebody's feelings. I would like to not do that!
So here's the thing. I know not all of you are facing situations of discourse, but I bet some are. You know, where family isn't happy with something you've decided about your wedding -- the wedding dress, the venue, the food, certain other guests, etc. What are you doing about it? Are you telling certain people that if they are going to be party poopers they can just stay home? Are you giving them invitations and not saying a thing, hoping they won't show up if all they are going to do is be a black cloud in the room?
This very thing is keeping me from moving on with preparing our vow renewal. I'm totally stuck. I'd love to hear how others are handling these situations. I know this may start a mess of a discussion on whether vow renewals are appropriate in general (and, of course, I'm not going to say you can't post about that because I'm not the boss! lol), but my question is more about how to handle people you want to invite but who have a strong negative opinion about certain aspects of your wedding.
Thanks!
Julie
