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He's gone...

StephB1185StephB1185 member
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My BF got a call last week and an IFL (Indoor Football League) offered him a position as a runningback on their team. The problem: the team is in MONTANA, and we're in St. Louis.  Well, this is a step closer to his dream, and if he plays well this whole week he will be with them permanently. I took him to the airport this morning, very sad.  I don't know when he'll back - 1 week, 3 weeks, 3 months - but I'm trying to stay positive for him.  He broke down in the car on Saturday, and I was able to stay together until last night!
I'm really not sure why I'm posting this - just that I wanted to get it out! Anybody been through this long distance stuff and able to offer some tips or insight?
It's a yucky Monday...
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  • TINAMMTINAMM member
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    edited December 2011
    sweetie it will be okay. I am a Military wife so I am all to familiar with having my loved one be away for months at a time. It will be okay just keep communicating with one another about your feelings and expectations while the other is away. Try to see each other as much as you can if possible while he is away.
    :) Keep smiling!
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  • lemonsprinkles23lemonsprinkles23
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    edited December 2011
    It looks like a GREAT opportunity for the both of you so don't worry. A little sacrifice now will reap it's rewards later. Smile
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  • MIABRIDENTAMPAMIABRIDENTAMPA
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    edited December 2011
    It's a great opportunity for your family, stay strong and there is always American Airlines and Delta.
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  • dawnbeattydawnbeatty
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    edited December 2011
    I totally agree with pp - stay strong for him so that he can do his best this week.  It will be hard but a little bit of sacrifice now will and can pay off a lot for later.  Just keep talking to him and encouraging him and letting him know how much you love him and how proud you are of him. 
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  • MypasmitaMypasmita
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_hes-gone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:17461f80-86b7-4141-be8a-b0afe82ae659Post:a82c60de-3a5e-4506-b5b0-c62df8665f18">Re: He's gone...</a>:
    [QUOTE]It looks like a GREAT opportunity for the both of you so don't worry. A little sacrifice now will reap it's rewards later.
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    Exactely what I was going to say and I completely feel your pain. My fiance lives in London :(

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  • cincy2011cincy2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    I know how it feels also, my fiance and I live 7 hours away from each other.  I would say focus on the positives, which are that he has this great chance to prove himself, that he cares so much about you and is capable of sharing his feelings with you and that this will not be forever. 

    Talk with him about the different ways you'll stay connected and decide what works best for both of you - i.e. a certain time to talk on the phone every night, text messages/IMs throughout the day, frequent emails, etc.  Also start looking into flights now so you can be prepared with options once you're able to visit.  Good luck - as long as you communicate openly you'll be fine!
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  • eagles347eagles347
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    edited December 2011

    Hang in there...my FI and I have been LD for our entire relationship. We are not as far apart so we do get to visit very frequently, but no matter the distance, anytime you want to be somewhere and can't it feels like you're worlds away. I always feel better about it because I know he always misses me and is thinking about our next visit. Call, email, text, IM, and cards get us through when we can't be face to face, but maybe you can look into Skype...I've heard good things about it. Whenever you are able to visit, planning the trip will make things a little more bearable too...

    On a lighter note: Congratulations to your FI for such an awesome opportunity. He's very courageous for stepping up to the plate and by supporting him, you are only reminding him of why he chose YOU out of every other woman in the world.

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  • mnm729mnm729 member
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    edited December 2011
    Aww, You will make it.  I am  in a long distance relationship right now.  I am in DC and my fiance is 1000 miles away in Minneapolis!  Continue to stay connected, and make each other a priority.  We also appreciate each other and the time that we do spend together much more.  Now, we are trying to decide where we'll live after the wedding. 

    Long distance relationships are tough, but well worth it for "the one".Smile  Let me know if you ever need a pep talk.  Us Long distance relationshipers need a support group. 
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  • ladylumladylum member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with previous posts and with the miracle of technology, you can still see each other face to face. Invest in a webcam and you can call him for free to his computer through Yahoo Messenger. I have had a few long distance relationships and it's tough but it's worth it if you love that special someone.

    Congratulations on his opportunity! Next thing you know we will see you on TV. Smile
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