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  • Re: On the hunt for a look-alike...

  • Re: Zola, Blueprint, Etc.

    So I just read this thread because I moved my registry to ZOLA from Bloomie's and BBB a few months ago, and I was interested in learning about everyone's feedback on the site. The comments I see here are very much not in line with the customer they are trying to reach. A lot of judgment from people who seem to have a completely different prerogative. I moved our registry to Zola for the specific reason that this site is relevant for millennial couples who are with-the-times. I find it ridiculous that anyone on this thread claims it is rude to create a honeyfund, experience fund, or other cash fund when you are being completely transparent about what you intend to use the funds for. It is not a flat out request or demand for money. I  feel it is a thoughtful way to make the gifting process more convenient for guests. And yes, you pay a bit in fees for that convenience-- but who hasn't paid for convenience... its costs to save time and headaches. 

    First off, the whole idea behind Zola's fun gifting is that it is seamless. When attending a wedding, I cannot count how many times I have had to run to an ATM on the way to a wedding (which I was already running 10 min late for) because, well, we are BUSY people nowadays and maybe we don't plan ahead enough. But such is life. And most young people like to handle things in the quickest, securest and most efficient way possible. Why do you think people (millenials specifically) barely ever carry cash and checkbooks around?! Because it is not a conventient form of payment anymore-- there are far better alternatives! I think that a friend seeking a specific type of gift, whether it be for their future home or honeymoon or other couple-related experience, deciding to place it on their online registry is brilliant. I have personally contributed to two honey-funds already and I never felt it was one bit rude for them to make that option available to me. I know that I can always elect to bring cash to the wedding or a check, but they provided me another more modern option for providing them that gift. I never felt like they were ASKING me for money. I find the whole idea is that is an option for paying the couple the gift you plan to provide. It's a means of delivery more than a request for payment.

    What is more rude? telling your guests what kind of things you will spend your appreciated wedding $ on or adding registry items that are priced out of everyone's budget?

    Another + for me  was that Zola provides an option to turn on group-gifting which solved the problem for those high-ticket kitchen sets, bedding collections, luggage, and other pricy items that are priced too high for many individual guests.

    Why is everyone all up in a tizzy over it? I am happy that a modern site like Zola exists for an NYC couple like us, who hate checks and managing things the old fashioned way (hand written lists, envelopes of cash, dozens of checks to deposit). I look forward to making gifting a little bit easier for our guests


    Girl, I don't know a single person in my friend group that was ever like "UGH. I got all this Cash, and I have to COUNT IT. THE HORROR." The only thing better in life than a nice stack of Andrew Jacksons, is a stack of Ben Franklins.

    God, you must be the sort of person all those terrible "Millennials are x" articles are based off of. 

  • Re: Zola, Blueprint, Etc.

    Thanks for the tips on how to get to know the culture of a "new" environment, unfortunately, it was not helpful, just like every other response to the OP.  And, sorry, despite your efforts, my feelings aren't hurt a bit; I feel bad for the OP and the handful of other women who came here looking for some answers and who left here with nothing but insults being hurled at their backs.

    I would like to thank you for helping to make my point. My opinion doesn't matter. Your opinion doesn't matter. And the OP wasn't even asking for opinions as much as someone with experience as to how these sites work.  And, prepare yourselves for this: etiquette IS a matter of opinion.  On what stone tablet was it handed down from God? As it was not, decorum, manners, and what "should" be done, are all a matter of opinion.  I could list all of the preposterous things that etiquette says should be done in your everyday life, but are not (Do you send a calling card to a friend's house with a butler before you intend to arrive for a visit? I didn't think so.)  I'm not the hippest, coolest, let-everyone-be-who-they-want-to-be millenial, but my goodness, people, times change. Peace out.

    I love that I stop in for the first time in months, and people are still getting their underwear bunched on this thread.

    Never change Knot, never change.
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  • Re: BM and MOH Fashion Advice

    I agree with @Mobkaz on the shoes. 

    I bought my bridesmaids their shoes, metallic wedge sandals that I got for a steal cause I was working retail at the time. Despite how awesome the price was, I really should have just told them to wear whatever neutral shoe they felt comfortable in. There is one picture of their shoes. And when I saw that picture my first thought was "That's cute" my second thought was " Why do I need a picture of my bridesmaid's shoes? Why did I even care about my bridesmaid's shoes?" 

    So, as someone who has been there and done that, just drop the shoes. It really doesn't matter. 

    And those dresses are long, so the shoes won't be seen, and it could make it awkward for them if they change into significantly shorter shoes/flip flops for comfort hem wise. 
  • Re: Venue rights

    So, all I got from this was Sexy Firemen and Sexy Paramedics.