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banana468 said:I would try to handle this in conversation as well. It's too fresh to just handle like some kind of a form. I'd try to see if you can just talk to him about it and say he's welcome to bring a friend.
MobKaz said:ellamber said:southernbelle0915 said:ellamber said:So, a friend of mine recently lost their spouse, suddenly and unexpectedly. I had previously sent them both a save the date, and am getting ready to send my invites. Here's the plan:
Address it to Mr. Husband, and put "we have reserved 2 seats in your honor." I had previously allotted for 2 seats and he is welcome to bring anyone, if he chooses.
My invites will arrive probably 1-2 months after the loss of his spouse, so I feel a little uncomfortable changing it to "and guest" because.. his wife wouldve been there. Is there anything wrong with my plan? Should I address the seating number with him, to let him know any guest he chooses (if he decides to) is fine? I don't want him to think I just forgot about the number.
If you aren't close enough to have a conversation, I agree with just addressing it to him (no "and guest").
If "___ seats in your honor" is pre-printed on the RSVP card, I would actually just intentionally leave it blank and let him reply with either just his name or maybe he will add a guest and you've already accounted for it.
I am, and I could. Ours is a professional relationship that became more of a friendship, so I see him once per month on a professional level but could certainly discuss it with him. I may just hold on to his invite in that case and send it a bit closer to the date, and therefore further from the tragedy hes experiencing. The # is pre printed on the RSVP, but I can make sure to give him a blank one (we are having about 5 extra invites made so this wouldnt be any issue).
Honestly, I doubt he will still go. We are good friends, but itll be one of the first events for him to go to alone.
DD had a dear friend who's SO died unexpectedly a few months prior to her wedding. Initially, dear friend expressed a desire to maintain "life in general". She RSVP'd "yes" to DD's wedding, with the intent of bringing a good friend along as a guest. There would be several others in attendance at the wedding that dear friend would know as well. This was all discussed in person between DD and dear friend.
When the date of the wedding neared, dear friend called and rescinded her acceptance. She realized that the nature of the event might be too difficult for her. Obviously, DD more than understood.
I would encourage you to continue to send the invitation with either a personal call just prior to or immediately following the mailing. Just be sure to understand and accept the possibility that what is said on any given day may change in the future.
Sorry trailed off a little there.
MairePoppy said:ellamber, if you click on your screen name, you will be able to find all your posts.
There is a sticky and discussion at the top of the Invites and Paper board that details invitation wording for various situations.
Oh Perfect! thanks!
HOLY ballsack I can log in now. I had so many questions! I had to answer them all myself
Ok. I have had caterers mention it (I'm not sure why, maybe theyre concerned?) but its definitely not in the budget right now. There is uber and lyft in the area, so that is an option.