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  • Re: BM dresses?

    I would say that since you did in fact purchase the dresses you are on the hook for the alterations as well. Though I do have to ask if you were going to give your BMs that direction, why did you buy the dresses anyway? If you told me that, I'd want to pick out my own dress. In fact that is what my BFF did. She said knee length and blue. I bought my dress for $3 at Goodwill.

    When is your wedding? If it's not for some time, they still had plenty of time to get the dresses.

    ETA: This is the dress I wore in case you wanted to know:
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  • Re: Finally engaged

    What a great proposal story!  It's just awesome.  And bonus points to Lita for agreeing to be part of such a special moment.  I'm sure she got a kick out of it also.

    Your ring is beautiful!

    She was so amazing. Afterwards when we were taking the photos with her, I still had my cash out for the autograph and she was like "Please put the money away!" She headed up giving us the autograph on the house.

    ETA: And thank you about my ring. It's his birthstone which was important to me because I felt like it was symbolic of him kinda "giving" a part of him to me. My wedding band is going to have my birthstone in it. 
  • Re: Unique Name Change Dilemma: Mother's Maiden Name as Middle Name

    I have a friend who used her maiden name as her daughter’s first name. It was also tradition in my family to give the last name we lost at Ellis island as the middle name to the boys. My point is, there are ways to honor, carry on, whatever, your mothers name without taking it yourself.
    One of my cousin's did the bolded with her son. It was a great way of keeping the last name in the family.

    That being said, OP, you aren't getting married for another year plus. You have plenty of time to think this over. I think you should do what feels more comfortable for you, not what your mother thinks. I just got engaged myself and I've thought on the whole name change for years and I'm still not sure what I want to do. Ultimately, it's your decision and your decision only.
  • Finally engaged

    It’s been a while since I’ve posted on these boards but I wanted to share my excitement. After almost 8 and a half years of dating, my love proposed to me on Sunday at Rhode Island Comic Con.

    How he proposed was amazing. A little backstory to go with this, we both are very big wrestling fans. Yes I know it’s lame to be at the age we are and love watching it but it’s one of our shared interests. Originally the plan was that he was going to propose during our trio photo op with the actors from the Boondock Saints. Unfortunately two of the actors canceled so we lost the op. We were then going to have a photo op with two female wrestlers that we both were fans of but the chaos of the morning meant we missed the op time. So as we are waiting in line for him to get autographs from his favorite voice actors he asks me if I wanted to meet anyone there. I said yeah, one or both of the female wrestlers. Once we were done with his autographs I went to the ATM to get cash for my autograph and waited while she finished with other fans. As we’re waiting he went to the security guy standing nearby and asked if there was a way she could help him.

    When I got up to the table, she asked me what photo I wanted my autograph on and when I picked it out, she said she was going to write a special message on it and held it away from me. As she’s doing that, he kneeled on the ground behind me. Once she was finished and turned it around, I read the message and turned around to see him on his knee. At that point I was crying and he asked me to marry him. I of course told him yes and we got pictures with her. 

    It was the best way he could propose and made the Con even more memorable. I have attached photos of my ring, the autograph and the picture we took with her. I’m still in shock from it.
  • Re: When do you wear your rings? (Also some advice please)

    So I literally just got engaged on Sunday but I had worn a promise ring for the last 7 years or so so that when the time came I'd be used to having a ring on my finger. The only time the ring was ever off my ring was when I went to bed, showering, washing my hands and going to pole dance classes. Even now with a brand new ring, those are still the only times it's off of me. I think it's personal preference to how and when you wear your ring.