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  • Re: Cash Bars

    I'm from Maine, USA. Cash bars are also the expectation in this region. I'm starting to struggle with the way many folks who feel passionately that all beverages available at or near a wedding reception should be complementary cut discussions off and completely disregard the reality of different regional customs. Or, rather, it is my observation that the majority of people posting seem to be from the US and many rigidly refuse to accept the fact that things could respectfully be different and acceptable 500, 1000 or 2000 miles away.

    I also have to say, I see many folks post that their venues offer included unlimited drink hosted bar options. Not a single place we researched in our region offered this. Every venue we approached a offered per drink hosted option. Prices ranged $4-8usd per beer, $6.50-12 per mixed drink, $6-8 per glass of house.

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  • Re: What was your proposal like?

    Here's our story!

    When it happened

    Wednesday, October 31, 2012

    How we got engaged

    A proposed to S on Wednesday, October 31, 2012.  Yes, it was Halloween.  Yes, S was wearing devil horns.

    But, the costume isn't relevant to the story.

    Unbeknownst to S, this had been in the works for quite some time.  A visited jewelry stores, sought advice and assistance from friends, and settled on a beautiful, custom-designed sapphire and diamond ring.  A even called S parents. 

    Elaborate plans to propose on stage at the Drag Show S's school put son, or to stage an elaborate,Glee-type proposal using students, were quickly eliminated.

    A recruited the graphic design talents of one of her students,  (S had hired the student to create the poster for the Drag Show), and they hatched a plan. 

    On Halloween, S and A had tickets to go see the band, fun., at the State Theater.  On their way to the theater, A got a call from the student and asked S to check her email (thank goodness for smart phones) so that she could look at the drag show poster proof.

    S checked her email, opened the file, and instead of a poster featuring drag queens and the school logo, she found the image above.  In A's handwriting, it said, "I'll be your Watson If you'll be my Holmes.  S, will you marry me?"

    The background is the wallpaper from the 221B Baker Street apartment featured in the BBC series, Sherlock.  Yes, S is a geek(and Holmes is her last name).  Yes, A loves her all the more for it.

    Turning to see A getting down on one knee and presenting her with a ring box, S's response was, "What are you doing? Are you crazy?  What? Of course I'll marry you!"

    They met up with friends, they enjoyed their evening, and the concert was a lot of fun. (ha!).

    And then, a week later, the voters of Maine supported the referendum for marriage equality.  Thank you, voters of Maine, for supporting love and justice.

  • I'm Honeymoon Obsessed! Are Any of You?

    We both work at schools, we're taking our HM 5 months after our wedding (got married 12/31/13) which will be after our seniors graduate. We're roughly 99 days away and I'm super excited/obsessed with finding good deals and mapping things out. We're flying from Boston, USA to London, spending 6 nights there and then traveling to Scotland for an additional 5 days. We are planning 4 day trips from different departures. 

    I've signed-up for livingsocial, groupon, amazon local, travel zoo in the postal codes near our hotels. Tickets and hotels are booked. I'm constantly searching for the best prices for our trips. I've even bought some currency (under the current exchange rate!) on ebay from other travelers with extra change. I'm loving this planning. DW is excited and is happy to let me do my obsessive research!

    Anyone else out there super obsessed with their planning?
  • Re: Good Gay Wedding Readings--poems or quotes or stories?

    how about some oscar wilde or walt whitman?

    "Out of the rolling ocean the crowd"

    Out of the rolling ocean the crowd came a drop gently to me,
    Whispering, I love you, before long I die,
    I have travell’d a long way merely to look on you to touch you,
    For I could not die till I once look’d on you,
    For I fear’d I might afterward lose you.

    Now we have met, we have look’d, we are safe,
    Return in peace to the ocean my love,
    I too am part of that ocean, my love, we are not so much separated,
    Behold the great rondure, the cohesion of all, how perfect!
    But as for me, for you, the irresistible sea is to separate us,
    As for an hour carrying us diverse, yet cannot carry us diverse forever;
    Be not impatient – a little space – know you I salute the air, the ocean and the land,
    Every day at sundown for your dear sake, my love.

    or some 
  • Re: Worst Wedding You've Ever Been To?

    Thanks for the explanation! I read it incorrectly.

    I'm just being too sensitive.