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  • Re: Graduation party questions?

    I will go against the grain and say no to the party subs, only because they usually have mayo, tomato, onions, and/or pickles, none of which I like, and I know I'm far from the only one who's picky like that. (I HATE having to pick a tomato off my sandwich and eating the soggy bread!) Could you consider plain subs with fixings on the side, or else adding another cheap protein item like meatballs? 

    I just love grad parties! They are so casual and happy. I don't know why but I find them so much more enjoyable than engagement parties. 
    OurWildKingdom
  • Re: Graduation party questions?

    I will go against the grain and say no to the party subs, only because they usually have mayo, tomato, onions, and/or pickles, none of which I like, and I know I'm far from the only one who's picky like that. (I HATE having to pick a tomato off my sandwich and eating the soggy bread!) Could you consider plain subs with fixings on the side, or else adding another cheap protein item like meatballs? 

    I just love grad parties! They are so casual and happy. I don't know why but I find them so much more enjoyable than engagement parties. 
    I mean, really? You want her to buy a plain party sub, then go buy lettuce, tomatoes, mayo etc, Spending the morning chopping it up, figuring out how to store mayo outside, keep refilling it throughout the party, etc. It's a bloody sandwich at a casual party. I don't think she has to cater to everyone's pickiness. I don't like tomatoes, but I know plenty of people who do. I've never seen the 0.2 second task of picking tomatoes off as burdensome. If it is, don't eat the sandwich. I just find this complaint utterly ridiculous. 

    The onus is on the fussy eater to deal, not for the host to do lots of extra work to cater for 1 or 2 picky people. I'm not talking about medical/religious/ethical reasons but just fussy adults. Everyone has their things they don't like, but it isn't like she is serving liver and escargots. If you cannot even handle eating something that isn't your taste, good news, you don't have to! But what you cannot do is hijack the menu, create extra work for the host and parade it like it is an etiquette blunder for the host to not do cater to your demands. Look, we all have things we don't like, but being fussy to the point of drawing attention is obnoxious. You just quietly don't eat it, and never lead on that the hosting was anything but great. Because being a fussy eater is the adult's embarrassment, not the host's obligation.  

    There is fruit, veggies, crisps, dip and cake. No one is going to starve. It isn't a restaurant where you can order things exactly how you want it. 

    If a grown adult hates something so much to the point where they can't deal for a 2 hour, non-meal, open house party and eat when they get home, then start declining invitations. 



    Jesus Christ. She asked for input on her menu, and I shared my opinion. I have been to literally dozens of parties that serve hamburgers with fixings on the sides and it doesn't seem to be an onerous task for the host. I also suggested she could just add meatballs, but you skipped that part since I guess it didn't fit into your assertion that I'm fucking "hijacking" a menu?

    And yeah, I'd be bummed, but of course I'd never say anything to the host or imply that I was unhappy in any way. I AM an adult and I do go to lots of parties that have food I don't like and I just deal with it. But if the host were to ASK ME what I thought beforehand, I think it's okay to share a goddamn opinion.

    ETA: Wow, I really wonder why nobody posts on TK anymore?  :D
    adk19OurWildKingdomernursejeileenrobcowgirl8238
  • Re: RSVP Stamps

    My friend group got an invite with a reply card that had no envelope (and therefore obviously no stamp). Maybe we are just petty bitches but SIX years later we still talk about how cheap that couple was! 
    lizybeffInLoveInQueenseileenrobcowgirl8238
  • Re: Thank you.

    There have been analyses that show in certain parts of the country you are far better off, financially-speaking, renting than buying a home. I don't know where in CA the OP lives but given what I know about that state, she could very well be in one of them.

    I personally feel safer owning a home because I know that the only thing that could cause us to have to leave is if we default on our mortgage (or, of course, some kind of serious health/safety issue). I have had enough bad landlords - both corporate and individual - to know that they wield almost all of the power in your relationship. And if shit goes south politically/globally we have a place to hunker down permanently. (Oh god I think my prepping-obsessed H is wearing off on me.)

    If you have a mortgage, in my opinion you are not debt-free. But I don't hate the word debt because I think it is a tool that can be used to your advantage. (Obviously high-interest consumer debt is not a tool and should be paid off asap!) But a mortgage is a tool. If you have a 3.25% interest rate on your mortgage, you can almost certainly get double that rate of return if you invest your extra money instead of prepaying your mortgage. Why not get double the money? Perhaps it is a boon to some people psychologically to pay off their mortgage, but I don't think it makes financial sense. We currently use the "every two weeks" mortgage payment method so we technically make a 13th payment every year but I'm not sure we'll prepay any more than that.
    short+sassy
  • Re: My H walking without a cane :)

    Sorry, guys! I've been trying to respond all day but no matter what browser I use TK will not let me stay signed in. I've had to copy & paste this comment three times just to get it to post!

    Thanks so much! He's such an inspiring person. He works so hard! He is considered a "hip disarticulation" amputee and those with an HD have to put out 120% of the effort (compared to a person with two legs) to walk. He loves the work and is proud when he is pouring with sweat!

    That is so huge!  he looks really great, glad you're still doing well.

    I can't believe it's almost been a year...that means your first anniversary is soon, right?!

    Yes ma'am... March 17!
    kimmiinthemittenshort+sassy