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1. Re: Pros and Cons of Name Changing

   

   Reply by Maggie0829 · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I really don't think there are pros and cons to changing your name but I do think you need to decide what is best for you and your situation/feelings. I didn't even give it a second thought when it came time to change my name. I always knew I was going to when I got married. Did you consider changing your name at all prior…

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   Reply by phira · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   @clueclaw Honestly, the concept that it's not a big deal is one that's constantly used to invalidate women who don't want to change their names (not saying HEY stop invalidating me! This is a general observation, not specifically a thing about you personally). There's this idea that, well, it's just a name, it's not like…

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   Reply by Didgeridoo · April 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I'll be changing my last name to his, and changing my middle name to my maiden name. I'm not terribly attached to my middle name, so this seems like a good way to honor both heritages. My fiance actually brought up the possibility of keeping my maiden name, but I personally prefer to change it. I'd like all our family…

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   Reply by themuffinman16 · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   My personal reason is that men are not required to change their names. I just do not agree that women are the same person all of their life, and then have to adopt a different identity, once they get married. I don't judge anyone who changes their name, it is a very personal decision. Growing up, my father wanted a boy…

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   Reply by starbright2013 · April 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   My only real advice to think long and hard about what YOU want before reaching a final decision. I never really thought about whether or not I would change my last name after marriage, but soon after we got engaged I realized that it didn't sit well with me. I brought it up to FI and we discussed it and he told me he…

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   Reply by Jells2dot0 · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I agree with pps that it's personal. My personal situation has led me to change my name twice. (married, divorced, married). when I got married the first time, I really struggled with changing my name because of my career. I changed it anyway. When I got divorced, it seemed like a total PITA to change it back to my maiden…

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   Reply by mbross3 · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I'm sorry if that came off as snarky, I didn't mean to imply that you couldn't figure out hyphens. I just don't think that concerns about how other people feel or think should affect a couple's decision on what to do with their and their children's names. If they want to hyphenate- great. Yes some kids get tired of it,…

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   Reply by phira · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I am not changing my last name. A lot of people assume it's because I'm a scientist and I'm published under my current name, but so many scientists change their last names after marriage that it's not really a thing anymore. I just don't see the point. I've had my name forever, and changing it feels like my story up until…

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   Reply by Mkincaid2014 · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I am also not changing my name. I've built a good repuation in my field over the last couple of years, and I don't want to lose that network because people don't recognize my name on something. There are also work-related hurdles to changing my name that aren't really worth the time to figure out. Earlier in my life (even…

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    Reply by mbross3 · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

    I will not change my last name. Neither BF nor I feel strongly about having the same last name and I feel very strongly that a woman should not be categorized by her marital status (what's that about?!) and I also dislike the historical connotations of possession that go along with changing your name to your husband's…