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   Discussion by Bubblegum5586 · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   Just when I think I know the answer to every scenario for plus 1s.... My friend is getting married and asked me how it works and what I did. So I explained to her the rules of basically only truly single guests that are 18+ don't need to get a +1, but can at her discretion (and to keep in mind the "circles rule"). Well…

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   Reply by ktjanesmom · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   A 20 year old dating a 16 year old? Isnt that illegal?

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   Reply by NYCBruin · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   Agree with the PPs, the 16 year old is being invited as the guest of the 20 year old. Her age should not matter as she's being invited as his (an adult) SO. I also agree with Maggie, that if she wasn't invited, it may certainly appear that the couple is judging the age difference in the relationship.

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   Reply by Maggie0829 · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   Since the main guest is an adult I would invite the SO. Now if both were minors then I would pull the "only adults get a plus one" rule and not invite the SO. To not invite the SO because she is under 18 then makes the bride look like she is judging the relationship and the age difference. KWIM?

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   Reply by artbyallie · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   Re: the creep-factor, I find this formula handy. If your partner is less than half your age + 7 years (or vice versa), it's too much of a difference. Thus 20/2+7=17 and therefore dating a 16-year-old is just over the line of too young.

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   Reply by AddieCake · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I haven't read the other responses yet, but my answer is that the GF should be invited. ETA: I'm judging the age difference and picturing my husband's reaction if our (hypothetical) 16-year-old daughter ever came home telling us her boyfriend was 20. And it's a scary, scary place. 

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   Reply by NYCBruin · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   But would you judge an older high school junior who dated a high school freshman, because that age difference is possible. Or even a senior and a freshman? What is it about turning 18 that magically makes the relationship not ok? Is a couple supposed to break up just because one of them becomes an adult?

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   Reply by Bubblegum5586 · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   Lol thanks everyone! I guess I am still wondering if it is AGAINST etiquette to not invite the 16 SO? Most responded with "I would" but is there any actual line of right and wrong here? Just curious?

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   Reply by ashleyep · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I don't know that there's any hard and fast rule. If this is the only cousin with a girlfriend/boyfriend and their relationship is newish, you're probably fine not inviting her. I don't think anyone is going to call the etiquette police on you, especially since this is family. But if the rest of the cousins are older and…

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    Reply by Jen4948 · March 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

    If we're talking about a relationship where the two people are a year or two apart in age, even if one is legally an adult and the other isn't yet, I can accept that as a social unit. But I'm not going to treat two minors dating each other as a social unit. A situation where you have a 20 year old dating a 16 year old…