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1. Re: Name Change Reflections

   

   Reply by HisGirlFriday13 · April 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   Is your FI open to hyphenating yours with his? Could you both be Mr. and Mrs. BrideMaiden-FiSurname? FWIW, I moved my maiden name to my middle name and took DH's last name as my last name. That's what felt right for me/us. There is no 'wrong' decision, but I do have to ask -- why do you think this is a private decision?…

2. Re: Name Change Reflections

   

   Reply by phira · April 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   I'm not changing mine. I'm actually a little bit upset because people ask me (which I think is rude) and then when I say I'm not changing it, they say something like, "Yeah, I didn't think you would." Usually, it's a little bit ... not smug, but definitely kind of like, "Yep, nailed it," because I'm a scientist and a…

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   Reply by rajahmd · April 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   I just recently went through the name change process. I dropped my middle name, moved my last name to my middle name, and added DH's last name. DH also wants to change his name. He's going to add my last name as his middle name. Unfortunately, he has to go through the court system. Because he goes by his middle name, not…

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   Reply by phira · April 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   You're not the only one. I don't want to change my last name, but I kind of feel like FUCK YOU PEOPLE I'M GONNA CHANGE IT because I'm so annoyed with people who assume I'm keeping it. I do want to emphasize that we can make our own decisions without being vilified as upholding patriarchy while also criticizing the culture…

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   Reply by QueerFemme · April 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   I was really happy to change my last name. But, I have zero connection to my former name, so that helped. I don't have a relationship with my biological family, so it was no loss to remove that name. With that said, it still feels weird to say my last name and it's been 18 months since we got married. I'm 43... and…

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   Reply by wandajune6 · April 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   I can't decide either. I was originally going to take his name but am now having a hard time getting my head around the idea. I'd be open to making my maiden name my middle name but can't do that easily. I have 4 names already: wandajune6+middle+mom's maiden+last name. I don't really care about my middle name but having 3…

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   Reply by Senecaf · April 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   I'm undecided about changing my last name.. I like my last name as it is. my middle name is already my mother's maiden name. But I have children and they would really like for me to have the same last name as Them. and I would like that too. I'm not a fan of hyphenation. Because I'm so undecided chances are I will keep my…

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   Reply by hikebikebemerry · April 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   I'm getting this too! Changing my name doesn't make me less of a feminist, nor do I think that not changing your name makes you a superior feminist, if you're doing what makes you happy*, and it works for your situation, who gives a fuck? But it should totes be easier for men to change their last name, and it shouldn't be…

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   Reply by kla728 · April 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   I haven't decided what I want to do on this yet, and I think there are probably people who know me who assume I'm definitely changing it and others who assume I'm definitely NOT changing it. While I'm generally feminist-leaning, since the beginning of time people have f*ed up my name. They take a few letters from my first…

10. Name Change Reflections

    

    Discussion by labro · April 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

    To start, my FI and I need to talk about this. We haven't really yet, because I've pretty much indicated I want to change my last name to his after we're married...but I'm having second thoughts. I know this talk comes up on this forum semi-frequently, but it still feels good to just hash it out. I'm seriously considering…