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   Reply by [Deleted User] · May 2017 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   I am astounded by the number of women who DO change their name. I recently spoke to a woman who actually had to talk her fiance into her taking his name. I feel like changing your name from one man's (your father's, usually) to another man's name (your husband) somehow feels like you are property or the child of the person…

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   Reply by 00kim00 · February 2017 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   You are not alone. I totally get that feeling. I was surprised I had a hard time with it, as I had always planned to take my husband's name, but I did. I felt like I was giving up a lot of my identity/independence in marrying him in the first place. I almost kept my name, in part because my new name can sound silly if the…

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   Reply by OwningAHome1981 · June 2017 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   Since I got called out already I'm sending this with a disclaimer: YES I REALISE THIS IS AN OLDER THREAD... but I am commenting anyway because I have something to say. I changed my name during my first marriage. It took a long time and it was expensive and a hassle. Then I changed it back. 3 years later I am getting…

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   Reply by Heffalump · February 2017 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   Me too. DD and I just had this conversation over the weekend, where she learned for the first time that some people change their names when they marry. We ran though all the options with her (one spouse takes the other's name, both keep their original last names, both change to something entirely new) and she declared…

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   Reply by LD1970 · March 2017 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   100% personal choice. For me, I got married at 38 (almost 39, really), and was happy to change my name, even though I was going from 4 letters to 9 and no one can spell it even though it's phonetic. It wasn't even a question for me. It's wasn't H; he was shocked I wanted to change it. Has nothing to do with kids, I've…

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   Reply by SP29 · February 2017 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   Totally up to you! And you can change it at any time, so no rush. You could also choose to take your spouse's name socially without legally changing your name. ETA: I chose to change my name because I liked the sound of being called, "The Smiths" (not our actual last name). My new last name is harder to pronounce/spell,…

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   Reply by TrixieJess · May 2017 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   Yeah, no. Women change their names for all kinds of reasons as you can read through the thread. My one brother and I are the only ones with the same last name in our family. My mother never changed hers, my stepmom never changed hers and my little brother has her last name. My FI and I decided to give our son his last…

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   Reply by missfrodo · February 2017 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   I changed mine. My full maiden name was Firstname Mother'sMaidenName Lastname, so when I got married I changed it to Firstname (Maiden)Lastname NewLastName. I basically just jettisoned my mother's maiden name from my name. I also have friends who both hyphenated their last names, so they became Mr. Hers-His and Mrs.…

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   Reply by [Deleted User] · May 2017 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   I think the equitable solution is to keep the name you were given (or, if having the same name is super important, both change to something new--the mayor of LA was Villar, his wife, Raigosa, became Villaraigosa--a pretty awesome name merge. Some extended relatives have even taken on the new name.) I know plenty of…

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    Reply by greeninspring · February 2017 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

    I'm excited to change my last name. It is a little bittersweet, but I plan on dropping my maiden name completely. I have a large immediate family, so I know the name will live on. I'm actually changing from a 4 letter last name to a 5 letter last name. You would think my maiden name would be easy to spell, but people…