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   Reply by AnneAndJJ · November 2009 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Not Engaged Yet

   I don't care whether people change their names or not, however I DO NOT think that in doing so you lose your identity. I always figured I would...and then BF with his wacko ideas came along, and made an interesting point, which I am inclined to agree with. If I (and my 2 sisters) change our names to that of our husbands,…

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   Reply by msotis21 · November 2009 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Not Engaged Yet

   BF and I were just discussing this the other day. I am MOH for a friend who is a doctor. She is not changing her name, because she is the first doctor in family. BF then told me that since I am the first engineer in my family, maybe I shouldn't change my name. But he's not the first engineer in his family, so he CAN change…

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   Reply by jeanacorina · November 2009 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Not Engaged Yet

   Rachel, I totally get the professional thing. If my name was part of my business (like, if I were an attorney, actress, business owner, etc) I would probably keep my name. But it's not. It's my dad's name. It's my crazy redneck family's name. It doesn't really hold much sentimental or practical value to me.I would love to…

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   Discussion by sapphirebaby926 · November 2009 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Not Engaged Yet

   I just read this article and it bugged me a little - I changed my name because I had no real attachment to my maiden name but I certainly don't think I lost my identity by doing so. What are your thoughts?[url]http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/wayoflife/11/05/o.change.name.after.marriage/index.html[/url]For the record I have…

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   Reply by noelle24 · November 2009 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Not Engaged Yet

   I think it's a very individual decision. For me, I feel like my name is very much a part of who I am, so I don't want to change my name. It won't make me any less married. I do agree that the reasons for changing names is antiquated and that there is no need for it. But that's my own personal opinion. I don't care if other…

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   Reply by lalap69 · November 2009 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Not Engaged Yet

   I agree that it's a personal choice, I just wish it seemed that more women actually considered and made a choice rather than just doing "what is expected of them." And I wish it was a choice that went both ways. If there were more cases of men changing their names, I think it would bother me less. I would feel that I was…

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   Reply by 202987 · November 2009 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Not Engaged Yet

   I know two different women who owned their own businesses (each had their maiden name in the title) and still changed their names upon marriage. It doesn't really matter-it's a personal choice.The part that really jumped out at me, though, is that in an article claiming that names=identity and how important that is, she…

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   Reply by oceana919 · November 2009 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Not Engaged Yet

   That article, in my opinion, is a load of crap. Losing your identity because you change your name?!? To be honest, I think it's a personal decision. I don't think a family is any less of a family if the parents have different last names, nor do I think a woman is any more independent, intelligent, or progressive if she…

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   Reply by MidniteRae · November 2009 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Not Engaged Yet

   I think it is the person's choice whether or not they change their name. But I don't think people should comment saying their choice is better. I will be changing my name. However, if my poetry catches on, I will probably continue to use my maiden name for that(since that is what my first book of poetry is being published…

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    Reply by TurtlesAllTheWayDown · November 2009 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Not Engaged Yet

    It's not like it's a news article, it's just an opinion piece. I do agree with her point. I think if someone is HIGHLY offended by it, you should ask yourself why.I do consider my name to be part of my identity. If my last name was Jones, like my mother's maiden name, I might feel differently. But I love my name.It's not…