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1. Should I change my name?

   

   Discussion by hallk33 · February 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   I guess I have never really given any thought to how I feel about changing my name. I could live with or without it. But my FSIL has the same name as I do. And I think she maybe insulted if I were to have the same last name as well. She already "feels like she is losing her brother", she isn't really a fan of sharing him.…

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   Reply by MyNameIsNot · February 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   Put your FSIL completely out of the mix. If you have the same name, you'll figure something out. My mom's sister and SIL both have the same name. For a while, it was the same last. We called them Theresa G and Theresa GG. The sister with the birth name got married and changed her name, but we still call her by her maiden,…

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   Reply by amandajean36 · February 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   if my FSIL's name was Amanda, i would still change my name - because i've made the choice to take my fiance's last name when we get married. plus, if this is your FI's sister (that's how i'm reading it...she's not FI's brother's wife, right?), then there will more than likely be a time when she gets married and changes her…

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   Reply by megk8oz · February 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   I think your FSIL's name should have absolutely nothing to do with this decision. It's your name. You have to sign it and introduce yourself with it for the rest of your life, therefore you need to like whatever your name is. Some women keep their name for professional reaons. Others keep theirs because they have a real…

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   Reply by handfast4me · February 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   I didn't change my name the first time (18 year marriage) and didn't this past time, either, due to a variety of reasons, including professional, my dad didn't have brothers or sons, and I wanted to pass the name down, etc. I think if the man is completely comfortable with himself, and has no ego issues, then he won't be…

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   Reply by aerinpegadrak · February 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   Chances are, his family will still continue to call you by your maiden name even if you change it, because nicknames tend to stick like that. Or one of you can go by a middle name or other nickname. She sounds like she's a bit over-dramatic, but she'll grow up and get over it. (Or she won't. Either way, not your problem.)…

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   Reply by trix1223 · February 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   Take your FSIL completely out of the equation. What do YOU want your name to be after the wedding. If you want to change your name, change it. But please don't base it on what your FSIL wants. It's not her call.

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   Reply by megk8oz · February 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   Another thing to consider is, most likely she's going to get married some day, and she might choose to change her name when that time comes, so it's not like you'd both have the same name forever.

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   Reply by Blue_Bird · February 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   I can't imagine anyone being upset about this. The only way it could become an issue would be if you both lived at the same residence and your mail got mixed up. Many families have more than one person with the same name. It isn't a big issue. I am quite sure that if someone means you they will refer to you as ____'s wife…

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    Reply by janedoe1113a · February 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

    I agree that you need to forget about your SIL and make this decision on your own. Do not worry about whether it's going to bother her or not. It's your name and you have the right to change it if you want.