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   Reply by Bonzo2011 · February 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I had a similar situation. I'm not changing my name, for a variety of reasons. I hadn't brought it up with the FILs because...well, I really didn't know how to bring it up in conversation and thought it would go over best if it just came up naturally. Well, a week before Christmas, FMIL posted a picture of a FedEx box…

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   Reply by toothpastechica · February 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   Ironically, I wouldn't mind that drama...I am changing my last name, I will have the same initial, but have never been that attatched to my last name and figure life will be easier with one name...and like it or not, it does make it easier when kids are involved, having a different last name can be the difference between…

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   Reply by hoffse · February 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   My FI wants me to change my name, I can tell, but he says the decision is mine. My last name and my FI's are EXTREMELY close.... like if my last name was "Smith" his would be "Smithman." No joke. I'll probably change it because there's no good way to combine them or add my maiden name as my middle name. That said, my…

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   Reply by LuluP82 · February 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I changed my name (rather, I added my H's last name and kept my maiden name as a 2nd middle name), and had my DAD freak out on me about it. Which is odd, because he's pretty traditional normally, but I guess he always thought I'd never change my name. I frankly could care less (I think a name is just a name), but it was…

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   Reply by kpdorr · February 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I'm not changing my name either, my sister didn't change hers, its just part of our identity. My FMIL said nothing more than "wow, you girls are rebels!" I think she wishes I'd take their last name, but I think a part of her admires my choice. Meanwhile, my dad's side of the family (whose last name we have) still adresses…

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   Reply by entropicbeauty · February 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I guess I'm really lucky, my FMIL didn't change her last name either of the times she married, my FBIL's wife didn't change her last name, so I think naturally my FI didn't expect me to change mine...and I won't! The kids thing, if we ever have any, is a bridge I'll cross when I get to it - but I agree with PPs that stated…

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   Reply by danishcanadian · June 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I took my mother's maiden name when I was 19. My Canadian side (Dad's) is obvious since I live here, speak English, and have a somewhat North American first name. When my husband heard my story, he told me "don't you dare change it when we get married!" I told him good, because I wasn't going to change it for ANYONE! I…

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   Reply by KatyRoseM · February 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I also had similar problems in the reverse. I changed my name and my friends wouldn't stop telling me it was a bad idea (I'm not feminist enough, his name was stupid, it was the wrong ethnicity and so on). Eventually you have to put your foot down and tell them its none of their darn business, and to back off. I know its…

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   Reply by kmmssg · February 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I don't think there will be issues at school. Find me a teacher anywhere that doesn't have a decent number of kids from a "broken home" and mom has remarried. When I remarried and changed my name the school could have cared less because my name and information was on file with their yearly registrations. You won't have to…

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    Reply by toothpastechica · February 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

    I never said I was trying to convice - on the contrary if your attatched to it keep it, but don't feel pressured to change or to keep it, I just stated that even if you do change your name you can have drama, and thats theres considerations to consider either way.