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1. Anyone not changing their name?

   

   Discussion by angelstar975 · May 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I know this isn't really etiquette related, but I was wondering if anyone didn't or doesn't plan to change their last name. I'm not sure what I want to do. I really love my last name and his doesn't go with my first name... and honestly, maybe it's stupid, but I feel like I'd be kind of giving up a part of who I am and…

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   Reply by Meegles4 · May 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I changed my name, but am doing First, Middle, Maiden, Married. No hypens, I'm just considering it that I'll have 2 middle names. I never thought it would be a big deal for me, but as I'm going through the process, it is a little bittersweet. It's your name, sure you have an attachment to it. I disagree with people who…

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   Reply by LeiselEB · May 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I agree with MuSu as well. I'm planning on changing my name - I've never seriously considered not changing it. I love how my name sounds now, but I don't really see a name change as changing my identity all that much. In my head I can still be Leisel Maidenname, ya know? But I like FI's last name and like anything it will…

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   Reply by chumlee7478 · May 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I had similar feelings about changing my last name. My husband (wow, that's weird to type!) didn't care either way what I did, so it was all up to me. For his benefits through his job and the military, my name would automatically be changed on their paperwork once they get a copy of the license. What I ended up doing was…

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   Reply by Athsea · May 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I'm keeping mine, because I never wanted to change it. FI was a bit confused about why I wanted to keep it, because he didn't know that women sometimes opted to keep their last names, but he accepted it as my decision. We're going to hyphenate our children's last names, so they will be MyLast- HisLast. That way, the family…

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   Reply by Starqueg · May 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I'm planning to change my name. I was originally thinking of dropping my middle name and using my maiden name as my middle name, but my fiance likes my middle name. I like his last name and want us, and any future children, to have the same name. Changing it will be a pain though. His mother is shocked that I am changing…

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   Reply by sarabellam · May 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I changed my name the first time I got married, but went back to my maiden name after I got divorced. I understand wanting to have the same last name as your children (to the extent that I changed my children's last names when I reverted to my maiden name). This time, I didn't change my name. My H was fine with that, so…

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   Reply by musicalsunlight · May 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   FTR I don't care if people choose to keep their names or not, I think its a very personal decision and as sarabellam pointed out, the woman's feelings should be taken into account by the guy too. I just don't think it outright makes a guy an asshole to feel whatever he feels about the woman taking his last name. Just…

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   Reply by rsanna · May 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I intend to keep my name. My dad had actually made a comment a few years back that I will be the last person in his family with the last name, and for some reason that stuck with me. I also really like my last name, so there is that too. My FI doesn't care about it that much, and we have already agreed if we do it this way…

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    Reply by Maggie0829 · May 2012 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

    I never thought twice about taking my H's last name. I just always knew that when I got married that I would be changing my name. The only reason why I ever thought not to was during the actual changeover...it is such a pain in the a$$ and I honestly didn't realize just how many things my name is on. I guess eventually I…