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   Discussion by jackieo954 · May 2013 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   My fiance and I are getting married in November and we are trying to cut down our guest list at the request of my mother (she is paying for the wedding as a gift to us). Right now, we have 300 people on our list - most of which is family. My father's side of the family is large, and my FI has his dad's family, mom's family…

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   Reply by QueerFemme · May 2013 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   In Response to Re: +1's?: [QUOTE]I see no need to give random +1s. I would pay attention to whether you can seat singles at a table they will be able to talk with people, etc. Posted by NYUgirl100[/QUOTE] You can ignore any +1 advice you get from NYU. She thinks it's ok to exclude people for a lot of reasons.

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   Reply by aurianna · May 2013 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   In Response to Re: +1's?: [QUOTE]I agree with all the major wedding etiquette books, that say one must invite the spouse, fiancé (and some would say live in or long time companion). Posted by NYUgirl100[/QUOTE] Even though you've been told time and time again that the books are outdated and that plenty of real people (aka…

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   Reply by QueerFemme · May 2013 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I agree with PPs, although, I made sure I had room in my budget to allow everyone a +1. I just don't expect grown people to attend a social event without a date.

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   Reply by ericaandtom2012 · May 2013 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   I'm going to ditto Wrigley, but add if you have any single guests that won't know anyone else at the wedding, it would be courteous to give them a +1. No one really wants to attend a wedding where they'll know no one but the bride and groom. 

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   Reply by jackieo954 · May 2013 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   Thanks for all of the advice! We have cut our list down as far as we can - our family is limited to aunts, uncles and first cousins. I don't have any issue with only giving "my" guests that are dating someone a +1, and my FI doesn't either. His mom just has an issue with us not giving her husband's neices & nephews +1s. I…

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   Reply by aurianna · May 2013 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   As long as the invited guest does not consider themself in a relationship you do not need to give them a guest. Just make it very clear on the invite with just their name. You can also put "1 seat has been reserved in your honor" on the RSVP card. And if you have meal choices you can have them write their names next to it…

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   Reply by kathrynrf · May 2013 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   We are in the same position! We have to cut down simply because the venue we fell in love with only has 175 spots. We only have one friend who is single who gets to bring a guest and it is because he knows NO ONE else at the wedding. Other than that, our single friends do not get to bring a plus one. 

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   Reply by wrigleyville · May 2013 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

   If they are truly single, then no, it's not rude not to offer a +1 to truly single guests. On the other hand, if these are members of the wedding party, then I would offer them a +1. Additionally, anyone who travels from far away, such as flying from another state, is usually offered a +1. These are not required, but it's…

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    Reply by KDM323 · May 2013 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Etiquette Forum

    If you are trying to cut down your guest list and a majority of that guest list is family...I'd take a look at who you are inviting from families. Do you really need to invite 2nd cousins or ALL of your first cousins? (For instance) We are only inviting Aunts/Uncles/select first cousins (in family unit groupings) to our…