Ever think before insulting someone?

Mrs D in May · June 2010

i know this is just a message board, and I will never meet any of you in person, and I should not allow myself to get hurt by the insults, but seriously... do any of you ever think before you insult a poster?

I may not have the proper grammer as some of you have stated, and I also am not a long time poster on here.

All I am is someone that is at work, looking for somewhere that may be interesting to chat and get to know some gals. I thought "the knot" would be a good place to go. Maybe I was wrong.

A little on my background. I was married 5/1/10 to a wonderful man. And I have a 21 and 14 year old daughter. I obviously am not probably as young as most of you, and this wasn't my first marriage.

I have been going through a very difficult time with my side of the family and it has become extremely emotional and depressing. So maybe this added crap some of you are giving me is the reason I am taking it so personal and why it hurts. I could be a major bitch and tell some of you to go "F" yourself, but I am trying to be more mature then that. Or maybe I have just run out of strength from the fighting with my side of the family.

But as I asked in the subject line, do you ever think of who's feelings you may really be hurting on the other side of the computer screen, or does it just not matter?
thank you for reading!

Night_Sprite · June 2010

A message board is not really a place to make lifelong friends. You may make friends, but probably more by accident than intention. Generally we are very blunt and direct with everyone, which can feel hurtful if you aren't prepared to deal with it. I say, with all the kindness I can muster, that you probably want to call a different place home. You may be too soft for the knot.

zippityb · June 2010

Is this the appropriate place to ask if anyone lives near a Popeyes that serves onion rings? I just found out about this today, and well, I'm intrigued. It's like seeing a blue tiger.

salt78 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ever-think-before-insulting-someone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:a307312b-f584-4636-9e87-d9dd14381eccPost:1f1530dc-24fb-4202-8d1c-bd578d9b3aaa">Ever think before insulting someone?</a>:
[QUOTE]So maybe this added crap some of you are giving me is the reason I am taking it so personal and why it hurts. I could be a major bitch and tell some of you to go "F" yourself, but I am trying to be more mature then that. Or maybe I have just run out of strength from the fighting with my side of the family.
Posted by Mrs D in May[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>If all you are getting on this board is abuse (which frankly it seems like) then why do you continue to hang out here?</div><div>
</div><div>Seriously.</div>

J&K10910 · June 2010

I'm sorry that you're having a rough time. However, what you said in that last post came off pretty rudely. The name of this forum is "Snarky Brides" and while we may not be the AFSBers (and you probably have no idea what I'm even talking about) we aren't exactly known for our puppies and rainbows either. Perhaps this is not the place for you to make internet friends.

HaylaC · June 2010

you said you wished you hadn't invited plus ones as none of them bought you gifts. That is why you got flamed.

ohwhynot · June 2010

Honestly, it depends on the board where I'm posting and it depends on how offensive or obnoxious I find the comment. In your case, whining about how you didn't get presents is very obnoxious to me, PLUS, you're on a board called "Snarky Brides." So I didn't feel a need to sugarcoat at all.

I am sorry for the trouble you're going through in your life and I am sure that if you'd posted about any of that and asked for advice, you'd get great advice and support.

betrothed123 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ever-think-before-insulting-someone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:a307312b-f584-4636-9e87-d9dd14381eccPost:1f1530dc-24fb-4202-8d1c-bd578d9b3aaa">Ever think before insulting someone?</a>:
[QUOTE]i know this is just a message board, and I will never meet any of you in person, and I should not allow myself to get hurt by the insults, but seriously... do any of you ever think before you insult a poster? I may not have the proper grammer as some of you have stated, and I also am not a long time poster on here. All I am is someone that is at work, looking for somewhere that may be interesting to chat and get to know some gals. I thought "the knot" would be a good place to go. Maybe I was wrong. A little on my background. I was married 5/1/10 to a wonderful man. And I have a 21 and 14 year old daughter. I obviously am not probably as young as most of you, and this wasn't my first marriage. I have been going through a very difficult time with my side of the family and it has become extremely emotional and depressing. So maybe this added crap some of you are giving me is the reason I am taking it so personal and why it hurts. I could be a major bitch and tell some of you to go "F" yourself, but I am trying to be more mature then that. Or maybe I have just run out of strength from the fighting with my side of the family. But as I asked in the subject line, do you ever think of who's feelings you may really be hurting on the other side of the computer screen, or does it just not matter? thank you for reading!
Posted by Mrs D in May[/QUOTE]
Of course I think. How else would I be so freaking funny? Do you think this sort of hilarity just creates itself?

If you're going through such a tough time consider a support group. You know someplace that's created specifically for the purpose of helping one another. Are you even planning a wedding? If not I don't understand why you selected this as the forum you want to post on.

There are friendly forums out there and then there's not so friendly forums. Find a place that you feel comfortable and stay there. Don't try to change the atmosphere of a forum where you're a new poster. That's just asinine and gets you ripped up.

laurenclaire1386 · June 2010

Listen, wounded puppy, you said something about inviting plus ones and then those plus ones not giving you a wedding gift. It made you come across as a gift grabby moron. And proper spelling and grammar are very much appreciated as we're all READING eachother's posts and responses. If you can't hack it, don't hang out here. But don't expect us to be nice to you because of some real life situation that not one of us knows about and that may or may not be true. If someone thinks you said something dumb, they're gonna call you on it. Them's the breaks.

goheels05 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ever-think-before-insulting-someone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:a307312b-f584-4636-9e87-d9dd14381eccPost:e3002b72-bb6f-432c-8d9c-49cb8deb871f">Re: Ever think before insulting someone?</a>:
[QUOTE]Is this the appropriate place to ask if anyone lives near a Popeyes that serves onion rings? I just found out about this today, and well, I'm intrigued. It's like seeing a blue tiger.
Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]

Yum, that sounds delish. I haven't seen a Popeyes in years. Cook-Out has excellent onion rings, though. I'd kind of like to get some now . . .

salt78 · June 2010

But Lauren...now we are all supposed to be nice and dote on her regardless of stupid decisions she makes because she has life issues.

We ALL have life issues, OP.

BecW2be · June 2010

God I really want onion rings.

FutureMrsTayPrince · June 2010

i will be your internet friend mirs D.

salt78 · June 2010

Oh for the love of dog.

BecW2be · June 2010

Oh. My. GOD. Best internet friendship EVER!!!!

betrothed123 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ever-think-before-insulting-someone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:a307312b-f584-4636-9e87-d9dd14381eccPost:4afd20a9-032c-4885-a382-715a08133926">Re: Ever think before insulting someone?</a>:
[QUOTE]i will be your internet friend mirs D.
Posted by FutureMrsTayPrince[/QUOTE]
I'd be willing to bet you two would get along famously.

BecW2be · June 2010

They can interpret each other's posts, kind of like Forrest Gump and Bubba meet Davinci Code! BRILLIANT!

ohwhynot · June 2010

See? I knew it. MrsTay = AE.

missy68 · June 2010

Another thing to consider is taking a break from TK for a while if it is upsetting you in real life. If your personal life is having issues, find a counselor to help you through these issues. There's more than one person out there who's gone through this.
I have no children, but I suspect we are about the same age. Take a break from TK for a month or so, do some puzzles online if you need to look like you're working at work, or do something else, then slowly work your way back in. And when you do, think when you post.

And just so you know, I am speaking from personal experience.

MarriedInAFever · June 2010

DED.

Today is awesome.

J&K10910 · June 2010

Ok, before I can try to think about MrsD and Tay being friends, I still need to get my head wrapped aroudn the fact that MrsD is shocked she got a few mildly flamey responses when she said she wished she hadn't done +1s because they didn't bring her presents.

ndnikki06 · June 2010

Hahahaha These boards were exactly what I needed today! Hahahahaha

HaylaC · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ever-think-before-insulting-someone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a307312b-f584-4636-9e87-d9dd14381eccPost:4afd20a9-032c-4885-a382-715a08133926">Re: Ever think before insulting someone?</a>:
[QUOTE]i will be your internet friend mirs D.
Posted by FutureMrsTayPrince[/QUOTE]

so she hasn't 'annsulted' you with her comments then, obviously

stmoreno · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ever-think-before-insulting-someone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a307312b-f584-4636-9e87-d9dd14381eccPost:4afd20a9-032c-4885-a382-715a08133926">Re: Ever think before insulting someone?</a>:
[QUOTE]i will be your internet friend mirs D.
Posted by FutureMrsTayPrince[/QUOTE]

Oh she's back. Looks like she got grammar down a little bit better this time around.

[Deleted User] · June 2010

If you hate it so much then why do you keep posting? Most of the time it's not outright insulting, it's expressing an opinion. The delivery may be blunt, but that's how it is.

I've been flamed plenty of times on here, but so what? No one here is my best friend and I wouldn't know them if I passed them on the street. It's not going to ruin my day for someone to not like me. I've only had 1 person say something completely out of line, but it's still their right to make such claims.

Going through personal rough times can make things worse for sure. Just don't let it get to you. And don't post things that make you sound like a crappy person (assuming you really did say that you were mad about inviting guests who didn't get you a gift).

arthomas82 · June 2010

Sarcasm is often confused with "rudeness". These boards use a lot of humor while still offering great advice without being politically correct. Like others stated, a support group is probably best for you.

arthomas82 · June 2010

Oh and if you would like a referral, there is a great support group that meets at the bar every Friday night. Its called "Everyone". Good luck!

FutureMrsTayPrince · June 2010

wut do onion ring s have to do with anythong? Did mrs D aska bout onion rings? i dont think so.

[Deleted User] · June 2010

To answer your question, no. I don't think before insulting someone. That would take away all of the fun. Duh.

SarahPLiz · June 2010

Staying on TK after you are married, or your engagement ends, is one thing, but joining after you are already married is entirely a different story, one which I certainly don't understand.

TK has sister sites called THe Nest and The Bump for general life change support purposes not necessarily related to weddings. I suggest you try there.

And just in case you didn't know, +1s don't normally bring gifts, and the guest they come with is supposed to bring the gift from the both of them. Or at least that's how I've already heard it. Why would someone who doesn't know you bring you a gift?

J&K10910 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ever-think-before-insulting-someone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:a307312b-f584-4636-9e87-d9dd14381eccPost:2b8f93ad-04a7-498b-b8fb-ff6a8fc5318f">Re: Ever think before insulting someone?</a>:
[QUOTE]wut do onion ring s have to do with anythong? Did mrs D aska bout onion rings? i dont think so.
Posted by FutureMrsTayPrince[/QUOTE]

Hmm, I'm not really sure how well onion rings and thongs go together. Sounds kind of disasterous, actually.

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