Made the mistake of calmly telling FMIL that I was not including local children on my guest list and got the usual "they won't eat much and can sit on my lap" BS. This attitude is driving me crazy.
There are seven kids belonging to wedding party members. Another 20 or so extended family children on my side alone. All non-related OOT guests with kids who have to drive at least an hour are invite to the wedding. I'm already looking at 30-40+ kids, and that's not even counting the little ones belonging to distant cousins of hers. (Seriously.) It's ridiculous to imply that we are anti-child or being unfair.
I really am sick of bumping adults to allow for children. I don't see why another dozen or more kids who we are not especially close to should be invited over our adult friends. FI is supportive and I'm trying to get over it, but this really has me in a pissy mood.
Edit: I was informed that if we had too many guests, somebody could run out and order pizza. I can't even begin to list all the things I find wrong with that position.