I'll do a quick timeline to make this simple:
September 2015- Best Friend sets her wedding date, I put the two days off in our vacation system at work- approved.
October 2015- Coworker gets engaged.
November 2015- I get engaged, I check the vacation system and ask my 1 coworker if my date works-- everything approved.
January 2016- Coworker announces that his wedding date is the same as my best friend's, and can see I've already taken the two days off before in the system, so we'll need to 'work something out'.
I'm pissed. I got approval for these days before he was even engaged! I booked my tickets! And now I'm supposed to move my days/miss the rehearsal, rehearsal dinner and possibly the wedding? I'm a BM! And this is my closest friend!
Her wedding is at the family farm which is 2 flights and a 2 hour drive, and if I have to fly in the day of the wedding, there's a good chance I won't make it- wedding is at 2pm, earliest I could land is 11AM...
Of course, if I say no, and my director backs me up, I look like the bad guy... ugh. His wedding is legitimately 12 minutes away... so he could work! I can't work remotely from the farm as there's only dial up and zero cell service...
Am I wrong to be pissed?