Looking for some unbiased advice...
FI and I are having a large wedding in NYC- evening, formal, etc. My parents are paying for 100% of it.
FI's parents offered to host the rehearsal dinner- great! They asked to be put in contact with our wedding planner for some assistance as 1)they've never planned a rehearsal dinner 2)they've never lived in NY, so need help with locations etc.
Planner has had multiple calls with them, they shoot down all of the ideas. (This info came from FI and FMIL, not planner) They can't even decide on the number of guests, even having being given multiple lists - the 'bare minimum'- aka only those attending the rehearsal, the 'bare minimum+close friends/relatives who will be in town' list, the 'bare minimum+ family' list etc, which they requested.
Now I understand that not everyone is a big planner, but it's been made clear to FILs that this is not something that can wait until the last minute- things get booked! They've been hemming and hawing for the last 5 months... and nothing is done.
FMIL is meeting my Mom and I, and planner, in NYC next weekend. There have been emails going back and forth and whenever the RD is brought up it's radio silence from FMIL, so there are exactly zero venue appointments set up.
I would like a RD. I am happy to pay for and plan the RD- but I need to know if I need to do this. We're less than 6 months out, and most of the original list of venues given to FMIL have been booked.
Best way to broach this subject with FILs? Do I? I don't want to upset anyone- I understand that they offered to host this, but would not be surprised that it just 'doesn't happen'... and I don't want to be hosting my RD (since we are having a rehearsal, we need to feed people!) at McDonalds...