So part of the pre-engagement negotion session included the man person indicating that he felt that it wasn't fair that I get a shiny and he doesn't. I am also a little bit uncofortable with all of the sexist baggage that marriage and weddings have had over the centuries and I wanted to make a gesture that indicated that I was promising to marry him as well as him promising to marry me. So we decided that I would buy him an engagement gift approximatly equal to the engagment gift of a diamond ring, but neither of us have any idea what we want.
He wants it to be something permanent that can't be easily destroyed like a watch, but he does not wear watches and he has hated everything that we have seen so far. I thought maybe a signet ring with some version of our initials intertwined, but since I plan to keep my name there is no tradition indicating the correct order of the letters and his initials unfortunately spell JLo.
Has anybody done anything like this, or have any ideas of where to go from here? I really love the idea, but the execution is eluding me.