The Name Game...

fallbride1109

To me, my middle name is much more "who I am" than my maiden name.  I can't imagine getting rid of it.

This is one of those things I just don't get.  Oh well.

And no, don't waste money on a name change kit.  I'm not exactly sure what it claims to do, but it's nothing you can't do yourself for free.

juliebug1997

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[QUOTE]Oh, ok, glad it's not just because I'm old!  :)  But just taking his name sure makes it easier anyway. I missed my old last name at lot at first (which was my old married name).  But I've finally gotten used to it.  Sort of.
Posted by stephiehall[/QUOTE]

I don't call easier sitting at the DMV for hours on end and wasting half of my day.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />

My mom must have been before her time then because she was Becky Maiden Name Married Name.  She dropped the Lynn like it never existed.

mseale

I am Michelle maidenName MarriedName.  I liked my maiden name, and my middle name was Lynn which every other girl born in the 80's had so I had no issue dropping it.  There was no question that I was taking his name.

I've also heard from aunts that making the maiden name your middle makes it easier if you have to help out your parents/family later in life.

I thought about keeping my Maiden name professionally as I've been in the industry for 8 years and have lots of contacts.  However, I would get so confused introducing myself as two different people depending on socially or professionaly so I just bit the bullet and changed it.

fallbride1109

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: The Name Game... : I don't call easier sitting at the DMV for hours on end and wasting half of my day.  My mom must have been before her time then because she was Becky Maiden Name Married Name.  She dropped the Lynn like it never existed.
Posted by juliebug1997[/QUOTE]

Well, changing it period isn't all that easy--we all know how much I hated it.  I just meant it was easier to decide.

And I had no problem at the DMV--it was everywhere else that gave me trouble.

serlace

Thanks for all the feedback.  I can definitely see both sides to this. 

juliebug1997

If I was younger and didn't have a 10+ year career already under my belt, it would have been a no-brainer but I even have parents call me "Mc".  I really haven't changed it because we would make travel plans and they now won't let you on the plane if your ticket doesn't match your ID.  And then, I was busy with my mom this whole summer so it just didn't seem that important.  Now I'm coming up on having to renew my passport so I think I'll have to do it before then.  I want to be "Mrs. Rankenstein" but it will be hard to give up "Mc". 

BanannaP

Courtney - My FI thought that too! Like, he actually thought it was the law or something! He was shocked that I was thinking about keeping my name. I know a couple of people who used their maiden names as their son's name, but Perkins for a first name sounds like an old English butler

juliebug1997

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[QUOTE]Courtney - My FI thought that too! Like, he actually thought it was the law or something! He was shocked that I was thinking about keeping my name. I know a couple of people who used their maiden names as their son's name, <strong>but Perkins for a first name sounds like an old English butler :)
</strong>Posted by BanannaP[/QUOTE]

This made me LOL.

shortgirltx

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[QUOTE]I know I'm just being silly, but I really didn't want to share the same last name as my FMIL.Posted by MissAngel[/QUOTE]

This was one reason why I hesitated as well.  Then after a few months I realized it wasn't about her; it was about DH and I creating our own family. 

shortgirltx

I've had DH's last name for about 6 months now and I am still having problems signing it.  Once I put an extra 'n' in it for no reason.  I literally have to stop and think when signing it, which is sad. 

MissAngel

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[QUOTE]I've had DH's last name for about 6 months now and I am still having problems signing it.  Once I put an extra 'n' in it for no reason.  I literally have to stop and think when signing it, which is sad. 
Posted by shortgirltx[/QUOTE]

Well his name is only 2 letters so I pretty much can't botch it... but in the last 30 years, I've "perfected" my signature... lol!  Oh well... I guess I can start trying to make his last name look pretty :P

danac2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: The Name Game... : Well his name is only 2 letters so I pretty much can't botch it... but in the last 30 years, I've "perfected" my signature... lol!  Oh well... <strong>I guess I can start trying to make his last name look pretty</strong> :P
Posted by MissAngel[/QUOTE]

LOL!   FI said that I actually make the last name look pretty when I write it!  You can't even tell what he writes!  I'm mostly excited because I won't have to spell or correct someone every time I say my last name.  Its not hard but EVERYONE wants to spell it wrong so I have to spell it everytime. 

AmberMarieTX

I was considering doing Amber Marie Maiden Married... because, like PP said, when will I ever need to write out my whole name? I could be wrong, but I feel like having two middle names will rarely be an issue, right? I mean, my name would still be "Amber Married" when it comes to people addressing me First and Last name.

I do plan to have my maiden name as a middle name for one of our children, though.

brooke.anne

I am excited to get FI's last name. I have no issues with giving up my maiden name and don't think it reflects on "who I am" but I understand where people are coming from. I have never really liked my last name and I don't really have any professional ties or anything so I will definitely be Brooke Anne FI'sLastName.

BanannaP

Julie, I know, can't you just hear it? "Perkins, won't you fetch me my slippers and a scotch?"

tam427

I will just tack new last name on to the end of my current name and go by First name & new last name.

dianaslik

I have one of "those" last names - the one where if you ever see it (literally): I'm related to them, my immediate family are the only ones with the name in the state, always misspelled/mispronounced, etc -
I do plan on taking FI name (one cool tidbit - both of our last names start with P) - and he fully expects that.
I know my mom goes by Lisa MaidenInitial MarriedName, but she's also referenced her middle name before... I don't know if she did the inital thing legally, or just goes by it, but it's part of her signature (Will have to ask! How do I not know this?)
As of now, my intent is to go with Diana MaidenInitial Married (but then my initials will be DPP as opposed to DLP)
*sigh* - ah, well, I do have some time to decide... and I've heard it's a pain in the butt changing your name in the military, so I may be living with my maiden name part time for a while after getting married.
We have no plans for kids (ever, at all) so that isn't really an issue...

bobbileighb

Matt and I talked last night and we both like the idea of doing Bobbileigh Maidenname Marriedname.  I am actually excited because I will no longer have to explain that I dont have a middle name.

meghanttu08

FI has asked me what I am going to do and I have no idea. My whole maiden name is all Irish-Meghan (spelled the Irish way with the H) my middle name and of course my last name! I thought about doing the heiphan thing..but it would look and sound silly I think So I'm not sure what I want to do right now.