The Name Game...

serlace

Okay, I'm sure it has been discussed, but I can't remember, so I'm bringing it up again.  Are you taking (or did you take) your husband's last name?  Are you dropping your last name entirely?  I can't decide what to do.  I will either drop my last name and take his, or move my last name to my middle name.  My mom is upset that I want to drop my middle name.  I don't know why - I hate it.

Lacey Middle MarriedName (Good bye Maiden Name)
Lacey Maiden MarriedName (Good bye Middle Name)

What are you doing?

bsn1752

I'm doing

Brianna Middle MarriedName... dropping my maiden name completely! 

mralpha

Well, I still don't know....I have two girls with their dad's last name and I don't want to drop it but the FI wants me too.  Plus my name is branded for my business.  I really don't know how I am going to get around it.

Im thinking though.....Michelle current last name and new last name

SoonToBeMrsHoz

I kept my name professionaly and legally, but socially I am now Kathy MaidenName Married Name.

sparklingdiamond

I don't want to part with either my middle or my last name.  So I am just going to have two middle names.

Sarah middlename lastname FI's lastname

I know its long, but its a rare occasion where I actually have to write out my entire name.  And I really don't want to hyphenate it.

shortgirltx

I dropped my maiden and took my husbands last name.

I wasn't sure what I wanted to do so it was a few months into the marriage I decided to take his name.

bobbileighb

I always thought I would do Bobbileigh Marriedlastname but now that I think about it I dont have a middle name so I could also do Bobbileigh Maidenname Marriedname but it would be long hmmm now you guys have me thinking.  My initials would go from BB to BBB.

Tiffany618

I made my middle name my maiden name.   Less confusion that way. 

juliebug1997

I think I remember Mandasue saying that the Soc. Sec. people will only let you put three names on there or that they don't like or that they frown on more than that.  I don't remember.  However, I don't want the SS people to be mad at me.

I still haven't changed my name.  Part of me really doesn't want to.  My students from day one have called me "Mc".  It's almost my identity.

danac2010

I'm thinking of taking his last name and dropping my maiden because I love my middle name but I might also do like Sarah and be Dana middlename maidenname marriedlastname.  Who knows but I guess I need to decided since I'm getting married in 17 days

mandaroo7

Oh my I can't decide either... I like my middle name so I may keep it and completely drop my maiden name so Amanda Middle MarriedName .  Who knows right, glad I have a little time!!!

sparklingdiamond

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[QUOTE]I think I remember Mandasue saying that the Soc. Sec. people will only let you put three names on there or that they don't like or that they frown on more than that.  I don't remember.  However, I don't want the SS people to be mad at me. I still haven't changed my name.  Part of me really doesn't want to.  My students from day one have called me "Mc".  It's almost my identity.
Posted by juliebug1997[/QUOTE]

How dare they tell me I have to limit the number of names in my name!! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />

But seriously, if that is the case, then I will probably hyphenate my name and then just not write out the hyphenation all the time.  I have seen people who have done that. 

BanannaP

I was always planning on just tacking on his name to make Anna Middle Maiden New, but I've also heard that it can be a hassle. I really love my name, but the thing I keep going back to is that I want our kids to have the same name as both of us. I know it's a lot more common now for kids to have different last names than their parents, but that's just the sticking point for me. So I'll change it...eventually...

DFWIndian

I don't have a middle name right now.. So I'm doing Deepthi Mylastname Marriedlastname.. This is what my sister did. I have to change my email and all kinds of things. I remind him the sacrific I'm making for him...lol

serlace

Kathy - so legally you are still Kathy MaidenName.  So you didn't have to change your name every where right?  So did you combine banking accounts?  Do you sign checks Kathy MaidenName?  So, only socially - you sign Christmas cards DH and Kathy NewLastName - right?   Also, these are a bit personal, so feel free to not respond or say no comment.  (Or PM me).  I'm just curious.  I really like my maiden name, because I feel it's unique.  FI's last name is SO common.  I'm just torn on what to do. 

ETA: I'm (almost) 28 and have started my career, etc.  I've had my last name for a long time and am known in our professional circles by my maiden name. 

SoonToBeMrsHoz

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[QUOTE]Kathy - so legally you are still Kathy MaidenName.  So you didn't have to change your name every where right? <strong>That's correct.</strong> 

So did you combine banking accounts?  <strong>We have our seperate accounts and a now also a joint account where I am still Kathy Maiden Name.
</strong>
Do you sign checks Kathy MaidenName?  <strong>Yes that is correct.
</strong>
So, only socially - you sign Christmas cards DH and Kathy NewLastName - right? <strong>Yep :) and my FB is also Kathy MaidenName Married Name.
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 Also, these are a bit personal, so feel free to not respond or say no comment.  (Or PM me).  I'm just curious.  I really like my maiden name, because I feel it's unique.  FI's last name is SO common.  I'm just torn on what to do.  ETA: I'm (almost) 28 and have started my career, etc.  I've had my last name for a long time and am known in our professional circles by my maiden name. 
Posted by serlace[/QUOTE]

<strong>I have been working professionaly under Kathy MaidenName for over 9 years( I am 31 now). I have my governement security clearance for my work, numerous accounts at work and in life under my maidenname and I also happen to love it, so I don't want to change it legally.
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<strong>Socially, we go by Mr and Mrs. Hoz.. but on all legal paperwork, it's all my maiden name. My mother and older sister did this way as well.</strong>

knottie2733fe6844e988e4

I'm dropping my first name (I hardly use it), mi middle name will become my firs, my last name my middle name and married name as my last name... confused? 

juliebug1997

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: The Name Game... : How dare they tell me I have to limit the number of names in my name!! But seriously, if that is the case, then I will probably hyphenate my name and then just not write out the hyphenation all the time.  I have seen people who have done that. 
Posted by sparklingdiamond[/QUOTE]

Whenever I think of ladies who hyphen their names, I think of a line from the old movie "Big".  "Mrs. Judy Hicks.  Mrs. Donald Hicks.  Mrs. Judy Smith-Hicks.  Sometimes she spells the hyphen."

fallbride1109

This is such a weird conversation to me.  This is where I show my age.  For me, there was no question I would take Ben's last name--to me, that is just what you do.  I had never heard of a bride taking her own last name as her middle name until I came on TK.

Tiffany618

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[QUOTE]This is such a weird conversation to me.  This is where I show my age.  For me, there was no question I would take Ben's last name--to me, that is just what you do.  I had never heard of a bride taking her own last name as her middle name until I came on TK.
Posted by stephiehall[/QUOTE]

My mom did it that way too, or else I probably wouldn't have thought of it. 

bsn1752

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[QUOTE]This is such a weird conversation to me.  This is where I show my age.  For me, there was no question I would take Ben's last name--to me, that is just what you do.  I had never heard of a bride taking her own last name as her middle name until I came on TK.
Posted by stephiehall[/QUOTE]

I don't think it shows  age at all! I had never heard of it either, and I am the same way, I just didn't think that there was a question about it.

bobbileighb

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[QUOTE]This is such a weird conversation to me.  This is where I show my age.  For me, there was no question I would take Ben's last name--to me, that is just what you do.  I had never heard of a bride taking her own last name as her middle name until I came on TK.
Posted by stephiehall[/QUOTE]

I dont think it shows age either.  I am 25 and I was always just going to take Matts name it was never a question but I did joke that I liked/would miss my maiden name.  When I saw others putting it as a middle name I thought hmmm I dont have a middle name that might be an idea.  I dont know if I will do it but my maiden name is a name that I have seen used as a first or middle so it wouldnt be that odd.  I will go home and chat with Matt about it tonight.

carmen9311

okay girls-- i may need some opinions on this one. so, in filipino tradition you make your maiden name your middle name and change your last name and then when you have kids, the kids ALWAYS have your maiden name as their middle name, so kids typically have 4 names... i.e., my name is carmen, middle name, mom's maiden, last name.

here's my dilemma. i LOVE my mom's maiden name and kind of hate my last name and i will for sure take FI's last name. however, my dad would be SO sad if i dropped the family name, especially because i have no brothers to "carry on his name". basically, i'd prefer being carmen, mom's maiden, FI's last name, but i don't want break customs/traditions especially because my dad would be really heartbroken. ugh...  

fallbride1109

Oh, ok, glad it's not just because I'm old!    But just taking his name sure makes it easier anyway.

I missed my old last name at lot at first (which was my old married name).  But I've finally gotten used to it.  Sort of.

SoonToBeMrsHoz

why don't you drop your own middle name?
and become carmen, mom's maiden, family name, FI's last name?

MissAngel

We go back and forth on this one... I wanted to keep my last name, but FI really wants me to just drop my last name and take his.  Hyphenating it just sounds weird and I like both my middle name and maiden name... thank goodness I still have a while to think about it.

My mom never had to worry about it since she married someone with the same last name.

I know I'm just being silly, but I really didn't want to share the same last name as my FMIL.

serlace

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[QUOTE]Oh, ok, glad it's not just because I'm old!  :)  But just taking his name sure makes it easier anyway. Posted by stephiehall[/QUOTE]

It would be so much easier.  I don't know - I just feel that my maiden name is part of who I am. I would miss it - and feel funny with a new last name. 

sparklingdiamond

I just like my last name so much more than his.  There aren't many people with my last name but there are so many with his last name!  But when we have kids, I don't want them to have a different last name.

cfibelkorn

I personally don't like when women keep there maiden names...Im old fashion like that I guess

So mine will definately be: Chelsea Middle MarriedName

courtski2004

I guess there was never a debate on what I would do...I am going to be Courtney MaidenLastName MarriedLastName. My mom did this when she married my dad in 77, and completely dropped her middle name--so I guess I always though that this is how everyone did it. I really love my middle and last name and hate to do away with any of it, but only my last name makes the cut.
I guess it has a lot to do with what he would prefer. Most guys just assume that we will be taking their names--jokingly I told him that I wasn't and he didn't know that I COULDN'T. I guess he thought that it was manditory to change it, and hopefully other FI and DH out there know better than that.
Since FI and I work together, most everyone that knows us professionally knows that we are getting married, so no issues there Some people are already calling me Mrs. Jason, which is weird.
On another note--is the 'name change kit' really helpful for those that used it? For those that haven't, would you have liked one when it was all said and done?

Jbryant8130

I don't think it's an age thing either, I'm 26 and I've always planned to take his name.  I love my last name and I had never heard of changing it to your middle, I kind of like that... but then again FI and I always joke that our initials are basically the same "JCB" and "GCB" so I'd hate to lose that matching C too... either way, Fi and I have already discussed it and our child will have my last name as a part of their name so that it keeps going (we don't have any men in the family to carry it on)... I should probably figure this out with 16 days to go ha-ha