My mother in law gave my finance and I a hefty list of 38 family members and 19 family friends simply for her side when we began planning our small, 70-90 person wedding. We have stretched the wedding to fit more guests, but now we are inviting 130 and cannot fit anymore in our venue. We had to make some cuts to her family friends list, but still included all 38 family members and 13 or the 19 family friends. The people we choose to cut are people whom my finance has not seen or spoken to in 10 years, but neighbors who have moved away. Needless to say she is very upset, but how do we explain to her that this is a necessary cut and that we cannot invite everyone? Are we being too harsh? It is either we take out some of her friends or we have to cut our friends which we are hesitant to do. I feel like it is unreasonable that she is being so forceful when she is not paying for the wedding? Advice?