I'm looking for some advice and would appreciate your friendly input.
I'm all for letting the mom's wear what they want but I'm nervous. We went to a wedding with FI's family recently and I was a little shocked at what FMIL wanted to wear. She bought a skin tight, black, strapless mini dress to wear to a church wedding in New England in the winter with her three children in tow. Maybe I'm uptight but I just thought that was insanely inappropriate. She didn't end up wearing it because her husband, who shared my view, told her exactly that on the morning of. Man, was she disappointed. Now she's shopping for dresses for my wedding, which will also be in a church in the winter. She found a dress she really likes but sent me a picture (of just the bodice so I don't know the length) and it's black and completely sheer. I'm a little at a loss of what to say, if anything.
I know she's an adult, she can dress herself, people will talk about her not me, and all that. But the bottom line is she will be the mother of the groom at this wedding and she should look appropriate. By the end of the night she will be my mother too and I don't want people whispering about her. Unfortunately, she doesn't take criticism well at all. I'm nervous about what to say. I wanted to send her some pics of dresses I think are appropriate and say, "The one you sent is pretty but I always pictured you in something like this gorgeous gown. What do you think?" I don't want to overstep my bounds, I don't want to add more stress to anyone's life, but I don't want her to look out of place either.
thanks all.