My mother and maids are planning my shower, and they're unsure of what to do... They want to give us a big Jack and Jill shower with all of our friends and family including children. Our wedding, although with a list of about 150 guests, is really just adults and just our closest friends and family (His parents are each one of eleven). Since we are paying for the wedding ourselves, we have not included many of our cousins, friends of our parents, or chidlren. Would it be okay to have a huge 'pre-wedding bash' as our shower in which people are invited who many not be on the wedding list. How would they word it on the invitations? Is that tacky?
In no way is it a ploy for gifts, but rather... my family and I have always had huge bashes for every occasion with 200+ people in our backyard hanging out! What do you think?
180 Invited
160 are joining in!!
17 are missing out!!
3 are late to RSVP!