Has anyone ever just been told that they were a bridesmaid in someone's wedding? I'm in 3 weddings within this year and 2 of them never really asked me to be bridesmaid...they just said "you're a bridesmaid!" Of course, I was thrilled because they are my good friends... But, I thought it was a little weird...kinda like being drafted haha. Anyways, one bride hasn't decided the state that the wedding is in and hasn't picked a date (it's fall next year if it's in CFL, winter next year if it's in another state). I don't know if I can really afford for me and my DH to take 4 days off work for rehearsal, wedding, and travel- in addition to affording plane tickets around the holidays, hotel, and the usual wedding expenses, but should I just not say anything until it's decided one way or the other? I don't want to back out, esp. since she was my BM but I when I was told, it was assumed it would be here. WWYD?