I don't think I can or want to have a bridal shower or a bachelorette party of sorts. I am planning on finding a place for me and my closest friends to hang out the night before after the rehersal. But I have a summer job that has me working weekends. I live 100 miles away from my friends and family and I don't want them to feel the need to fly down twice. It doesn't help that I already have my friends wedding to go to and have been flying up for her events when I can. But probably the most important part of it is my friends are scattered all over the world too. Some of them have never met each other so its not like I have the sorority girls or something I want to go out with. I am going to try to hang out with the bridesmaids in a few weeks one last time before starting my job, its my sisters and best friend and his sister. I will see her at his graduation in a few weeks for his school thing. So I plan on hanging with her some then and giving her the dress and the necklace I picked out and bought for each of my girls. I am worried that my lack of needing attention, and my lack of wanting gifts in general might be making me not want to put the effort into putting this together. I also know my maids of honor, yes I have two my best friend and my baby sister, have been busy with their own thing. My sister is in college and is 20 years old and has her own drama going on. My best friend is also a bridesmaid in my friends wedding so has been running around with that too and was a maid of honor in her sisters wedding a few weeks ago so she has been busy busy busy. This will be her third wedding of being a bridesmaid in a year. Also my mother is doing a lot of stuff and is sick too. Also his parents don't want us to get married. His sister is upset because she is having a baby a few weeks ahead of time. We picked the date before she got pregnant. And I have been trying to find a venue and failing so far. I hate hotel ball rooms and am afraid of rain and need a backup plan and am finding none. But I have a good idea and a back up if that doesn't work now but I am still waiting to hear back. Actually its going to be an aquarium that I am working at this summer but they are doing renovations right now so not ready to talk events in September. But also trying to figure out if we can have a priest marry us on the beach is another problem I am worried about. But I digressed off the basic point of this post. Do you think its wrong that we skipped the egagement party, shower, and bachlorette and bachlor party? Do you have any ideas about how to make it work.
Ok as helpful as you all are trying to be.....I realize its not my job to plan them....I am just saying...yes I shouldn't have to plan them but if I only have a (one singular) time that they could even throw me one and its in a week, should I just plan it or is it so not worth all that. So please stop telling me its not my thing to plan. Its not that they don't care and its not that they wouldn't. I dont' need a prep talk about turning down a party. I just wanted to know if anyone else is in the same boat and their feelings. Or if anyone regreted not having one or was happy that they didn't have time to.