DH has a cousin, I assume baptized Catholic, and we're going to her outdoor non-Catholic wedding in a few weeks, is it really true that the Church says we ought not to?
If so, this makes no sense to me.
She did not choose to be baptized Catholic, and shows no desire to continue being Catholic. I know some people think that you can officially un-become Catholic by writing a letter, but I have also heard that is not true anymore, and I am sure it is no longer in the current Code of Canon Law.
So, we're not supposed to go to her wedding unless it's in a Catholic church, even though we know that she has no intention of acting like a Catholic, and in fact if she were to have a Catholic wedding I would almost consider it a mockery (since I would assume she were only doing it for her parents.)
So basically, what's supposed to happen in this situation?
And does anyone have an exact quote for an authoritative document for it being discouraged/forbidden to go to such a wedding?
I think it might be different if someone still considered themself Catholic and, for example, still planned on receiving Communion, but just deliberately didn't want to get married in the Church. Then I can see their wedding being almost a "statement" against the Church, and for that it might make sense to not go to the wedding for you to make a "statement" about their attitude!