Community› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Reception Forum
Wedding Reception Forum
New Discussion
Options

Surprise dance for groom

missxdinosaurmissxdinosaur member
First Comment First Anniversary
in Wedding Reception Forum
I'm a dancer and would love to surprise my groom with a lyrical dance choreographed just for him at the reception. I'll definitely have to change dresses for the dance. What do y'all think? Too much hassle to change from the ballgown dress to lyrical dress and back to ballgown? 
Report Reply to Post

Re: Surprise dance for groom

  • Options
    kmmssgkmmssg mod
    First Anniversary First Answer First Comment 5 Love Its

    Agree with posters.  After sitting through the spotlight dances people want to hit the dance floor, not watch yet, ANOTHER dance where all you can do is stand there and pretend to be interested.

    Save it for the honeymoon - he might really like that.

    Report Reply
  • Options
    Jen4948Jen4948 member
    First Anniversary First Answer First Comment 5 Love Its
    I agree with PPs.

    1) Wedding day surprises for the couple, when they might already be feeling stressed by all the demands on their attention plus a number of things that could go wrong, just aren't a good idea.  Save the surprises for some other occasion.

    2) Spotlight dances keep your guests, the majority of the people there, from participating actively while at the same time treating them as a captive audience.  They'll tune out if there are too many.  The couple's first dance, plus parent dances, are enough.  Don't add another dance, especially a choreographed dance, to the list of dances your guests have to sit through without getting to participate themselves.  It's too AWish.
    Report Reply
  • Options
    vt&dtvt&dt member
    First Anniversary 5 Love Its First Comment First Answer
    I'm also a dancer, and agree with PPs.  It's too much for a wedding reception.



    I've had friends do "flash mob" first dances, and (IMHO) they took way too long, were a little AW-ish, and were kind of stressful for the guests they asked to learn 5 minutes of choreography two weeks before the wedding.
    Report Reply
  • Options
    KatWAGKatWAG member
    First Anniversary First Answer First Comment 5 Love Its

    Please dont do this. It is very AW-ish. And your guests dont want to sit through yet another dance. They will get bored.

    I agree with PPs, either do this in your hotel room the night of teh wedding or save it for the HM.

    BabyFruit Ticker
    Report Reply
  • Options
    KatWAGKatWAG member
    First Anniversary First Answer First Comment 5 Love Its
    missxdinosaur said:
    I'm a dancer and would love to surprise my groom with a lyrical dance choreographed just for him at the reception. I'll definitely have to change dresses for the dance. What do y'all think? Too much hassle to change from the ballgown dress to lyrical dress and back to ballgown? 

    JIC
    BabyFruit Ticker
    Report Reply
  • Options
    mollyringwald15mollyringwald15 member
    Name Dropper First Anniversary 5 Love Its First Comment
    I agree, very AW-ish. If I were a guest, I would be confused and holding in a major eyeroll. It's a wedding, not a talent show.
    image
    Report Reply
  • Options
    BlueBirdMBBlueBirdMB member
    First Anniversary 5 Love Its First Comment Name Dropper
    I too, would be holding in a major eye roll.  I detest these types of things.  These things can be done in private if you want to do it for him.
    Report Reply
  • Options
    AddieCakeAddieCake member
    First Anniversary First Answer First Comment 5 Love Its
    I would be majorly uncomfortable watching this. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
    image
    Report Reply
  • Options
    doeydodoeydo member
    First Anniversary First Comment First Answer 5 Love Its
    I agree with PPs.

    1) Wedding day surprises for the couple, when they might already be feeling stressed by all the demands on their attention plus a number of things that could go wrong, just aren't a good idea.  Save the surprises for some other occasion.

    2) Spotlight dances keep your guests, the majority of the people there, from participating actively while at the same time treating them as a captive audience.  They'll tune out if there are too many.  The couple's first dance, plus parent dances, are enough.  Don't add another dance, especially a choreographed dance, to the list of dances your guests have to sit through without getting to participate themselves.  It's too AWish.

    So much this.  Honestly, I would be pissed if FI surprised me with something, besides a love letter or something small, on the day of the wedding.
    image
    Report Reply
  • Options
    missxdinosaurmissxdinosaur member
    First Comment First Anniversary
    Okay, thanks for the input. I won't be doing it then.
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards