So, here is the situation. FI and I have already chosen our respective wedding parties which are as follows:
Him:
Best Man: Best Friend from HS
GM1: Cousin
GM2: Cousin
GM3: HS Friend
GM4: HS Friend
GM5: HS Friend
Me:
Man of Honor: Best Friend since... forever
BM1: My sister
BM2: FI's Sister
BM3: HS Friend
BM4: HS Friend
BM5: Family friend
Ring Bearer: My son
Flower Girls: My daughter and FI's second cousin (both 4 y.o.)
My mom asked me about my plans for the wedding party and I laid this all out for her. She expressed that it was incredibly rude of me to include FI's second cousin in the WP without even including my first cousins. Um, why? They are alll invited. I don't think this is rude at all. She is now pressuring me to include ALL of my cousins (4 girls and 2 boys ranging from ages 11-18) in the WP so as not to come off as rude. Apparently, if I don't there will definitely be hurt feelings.
I'm not really sure how to handle this. I don't believe I am doing anything wrong, but I dont want to hurt anyone's feelings either. I also don't want to argue with my mom. On the other hand, I don't want that large of a wedding party, nor can I afford as much.