My wedding venue is an hour away from where I live. So, my bridesmaids and I are going to go up the night before and crash at the hotel near the venue. The idea was for me to have one last girls night, get our nails done a day ahead, and not have to stress the morning of the wedding to get to our hair appointment on time. We are also going to dinner with about a dozen family members that will also be at the hotel one day early.
The problem is that one of my BMs wants to bring her boyfriend up the night before. All of the BMs have dates, two of them are actually married, and no one else is bringing someone the night before. My own FI will not be there the night before. So now I have one BM who will be in her own, separate room instead of hanging with us. I'm pretty much fine with that as I want everyone to be happy and enjoy the weekend, but does this mean I need to invite him to my family dinner? I think that's really awkward. Also, the wedding is not until 7pm on Saturday. We are getting hair / makeup done and then taking pictures at the venue. I don't want an extra person tagging along for all that (I barely know this boyfriend), but it sounds like this BM is uncomfortable leaving him alone at the hotel. I tried to explain to her that I want her to be happy, but that I also don't want anyone to feel awkward. I even said they could do their own thing for dinner and shouldn't feel obligated to go out with my family and might feel more comfy hanging at the hotel. I also offered to introduce him to some of the other dates who will be hanging around or guests that are coming later that he might want to just carpool with.
Idon't want to offend her, but the other BMs think this is super weird, and I don't want an extra person tagging along all day...help?