Okay don't maul me, hear me out please. This is not what I want. My FILs are hosting our rehearsal dinner at a pretty nice restaurant chosen by FI and me. The restaurant has a bar, but FILs are not drinkers, and I don't see them shelling out the money to include the bar with dinner. Also, the restaurant is a little pricey so I doubt even if they were willing, if they could afford to include drinks other than the standard soft drinks, tea, coffee, etc. I'm totally fine with moving the dinner some place else more budget friendly, but there's still the issue of would they even pay for the alcohol. Is it totally rude to serve the non-alcoholic stuff and have guests purchase their own alcohol if they want it? FI and I can't afford to pay for the alcohol there or we would, but that isn't an option right now. Thoughts?