My relationship with DH is the first time I've been in a relationship where both of us live in the same city as our families. This opens up all new issues with handling holidays. I'm incredibly lucky in that I've never had to miss a holiday with my family and I hate to start now.
Christmas is easy- his family celebrates on Christmas Eve and my family does Christmas Day. Easy. Thanksgiving is harder. My family plans everything in advance and has the location and time set at least 3 months before. On his side, we still don't know who is hosting Thanksgiving or what time it will be at. His mom (who will not be hosting) wants us to come to their family's Thanksgiving - or at least stop by- but we have no details.
To make things harder, DHs brothers are married to 2 sisters. DH has no family in the US outside of his mom, siblings, and their families. One couple (and their kids) share a 2-flat with the sisters' parents. There are a remaining 3 siblings in the area and countless cousins so DH's family events are usually tightly tied to the sisters' family. This year, someone on the sisters' side will host but no one knows who it will be or what time. This makes scheduling a mess for me.
On top of that, MIL wants us to host Christmas Eve this year. We have a bigger home so it's easier but there's a catch: she'll have 10 people in from Mexico over Christmas and doesn't want to include the sisters' family. Needless to say, this is not going well.
I'm trying to stay out of the drama but know that I won't be successful in the long-term.
How do you handle the holidays with your SO and families?