Without getting into a lot of detail regarding other potential Bridezilla-like behavior. My sister decided on not having children at her wedding. Wait. "No kids" is not the bridezilla part. Please read on...
She has two nephews (my kids), who will be almost 12 & 10 by the time she gets hitched. He has one niece and nephew, she guesses they are approx 5 & 7. That's it as far as family goes.
No kids at wedding. Got it. That's their prerogative and I could care less. But here's the kicker. She started stating that she wants the children to be there for the pictures at 3:00 (for a 5:00 ceremony). They can stay for the ceremony but then they must "disappear".
I don't think she's ever asked anyone if it was even possible to work it out logistically. I know she's only ever said to me "I want them there for pictures". She's never asked. As far as I know the grooms parents would be in charge of getting their grandchildren dressed and to pics b/c their dad is the best man; and the mother is not with their father (she will not be at the wedding). Of course her future in-laws are not going to make an issue of it to the bride or groom but I'm sure that's not top on the list of things they want to do that day either. Wait. I think this will all fall on the mother, as the grooms parents are not together either. This makes this more appalling! Poor woman can't even get her hair and make-up done if she's wrangling a 5 and 7 year old into dress clothes, I of all peopke know this!!!
Anyway, while arguing about how this isn't going to work for us she said "well my friends are excited to have a night out without their kids". Yes. They have toddlers, we all like to get away from toddlers. Her friends also not being asked to buy outfits and present their children to the photographer for 10 minutes, watch a 20 minute ceremony then get wisked away by a magical fairy. Side note: my kids also have school that day (she's getting married on a Friday) she could care less about that either it seems.
Besides the logistical nightmare this will cause, I think it's just plain rude to even demand this. Like rude to the 10th power. My father thinks that it's her day and I should give her what she wants (he also hates conflict). I love my Dad but I dont think I can pull this off without holding a grudge for a very, very long time. Thoughts?