...And don't want to blow up on H, but he is driving me INSANE.
So, we have some money issues. Nothing major, but we have some debt going on, and my salary is nothing to write home about. But, all of the bills are paid (if not exactly on time) every month, and we are scraping by just fine.
We made the decision together, at the beginning of the school year, that H was going to quit his almost minimum wage dead-end job and stay home for a year with my 4-year old. The plan was for him to take this time to get through some/most of his schooling online, and save us from paying for daycare (which would have been $20/wk more than his salary... totally pointless).
So, this is going okay, except that he is spending money like we still have 2 incomes! It's not like he is blowing huge amounts of money all at once, but he is doing a lot of unnecessary spending. For Ex: Today, I got a notification from Verizon that he made $40 in in-app purchases on some stupid ass phone game. Things like this (and buying pot, which I HATE... It's still illegal here and i'm worried he will get himself into trouble) are a regular occurrence. SERIOUSLY? We are poor - We need groceries. Come on, dude.
I am really struggling with this because I don't want to police how he spends our money, and I don't expect him to ask my permission; but at the same time, I need him to understand our financial situation and what purchases need to be priority. I just don't know how to convey my concerns to him without him feeling like I'm going all "MY MONEY" on him, because that isn't the case at all.
Okay, now that I've got that out, I don't feel so much like yelling at him anymore. Whew. Feel free to give advice, or not. I just needed to talk about it, and was a little to upset to bring it up to him at the moment.