Judgey Pants

rcher912 · January 2015

I'm sorrynotsorry, but I LOVE my judgey pants. I do tend to keep my thoughts to myself (and FI, who has his own pair).

My brother is looking to move up north to be with his long-distance GF (they've been together for years, I love her - they met in college down here, but she went back to live with family afterwards. He misses her, it's cute). The judgey part is that bro hateshateshates the cold (making north = bad), has a great job where he was JUST promoted, and she's finishing up grad school and could basically get a job anywhere. Not to mention, because of school, they both have social groups down here and he doesn't know anyone up there. And I'll miss my bro

FI is piiiiissed.

I know glass houses and all, and I won't say anything, but seriously. Come on.

mrscomposer · January 2015

JennyColada said:

One of my friends is way too gender-inclusive and tries WAY to hard to reject gender binary ideas for her baby. They named her Valkerie. Because it's "gender neutral". Valkerie? Really? You couldn't think of any more socially appropriate gender neutral name?

Uhhhh.... do they not know that Valkyries are WOMEN? Good on them for getting it right and actually naming their daughter that, but that's almost as far from gender neutral as they can get.

mrscomposer · January 2015

larrygaga said:

Anyone complaining about cold or snow and it's a balmy 30 degrees out is just lolworthy to me. Not everyone grew up where I did, not everyone has gotten frostbite so many times, not everyone has seen -55. I moved south to Detroit and OMG the weather here is so warm. I hate it. 30 degrees is a day in the park. 60 degrees is a beach day and I never saw 90 degrees except on a trip to Florida until this year.

I'm a creature of negative temperatures.

Again, I love you. We're having an unseasonably warm January this year, hovering between 0 and -10; our normal temperatures are between -25 to -40. I like it. I only wear a jacket to work when it hits -45. And when we're in the middle of a cold snap and people are complaining about their -10s and stuff, I roll my eyes so hard.

princessofgenovia · January 2015

My sassy shorts make my ass look better than my judgey pants do.

I'm judging my BFF so fucking hard right now. And it's so wrong, but I just can't stop. She just got married in December. I swear she got married only because she wanted to get married before she was 25 (she'll be 25 in August). He's a nice guy and all, I just don't get their relationship. They argue all the fucking time. They really don't seem to like each other. But she's like "No, getting married is great, I'm so glad I got married". I just think they rushed into everything. They got engaged after 3 months. Neither has really lived on their own.

I'm also judging that they're talking about moving back in with her mom. They both work, but they took easy low paying jobs. I swear I don't think either of them works more then 32 hours a week. And they just bought him a new car. So now they need to move back in with her mom to save money. Her mom is not thrilled but is going along with it.

I'm just like...grow the fuck up. I love you. But seriously. It's time to grow up.

thisismynickname2 · January 2015

I find it hilarious that someone might judge the term "judgypants."

DH and I call each other names all the time: Judgy McJudgalot, the McJudgersons, and because he likes to grope me (out of love, of course) I call him Gropey McGropealot or Grabby McGrabberson.

Take the theme and run with it. Your husband burbs a lot? Burpy McBurperson.

But anyway, I judge the living shit out of baby names.

Judgement over method of meeting and length of courtship is entirely based on how much I like the person in question. My friend married a guy within four months and nobody liked him, so hell yeah we judged behind her back. Out of concern! But someone else gets engaged in a month and the SO is awesome? No judgement, just happiness.

danamw · January 2015

Now I am not sure. Is being a Judgey Pants a good thing, or a bad thing?

theartistformerlyknownas · January 2015

danamw said:

"Judgey Pants" is a term to be used for a 4 year old, so I reject that right off the bat.
Who doesn't judge? I do! I call it a personal opinion, and I don't force it on anyone. I don't go around spouting my unasked-for opinion on people.
I may think a marriage won't work, for whatever reason, but it isn't up to me to go around saying it. It is up to the couple, and I would be glad if it worked out. If it doesn't, it will be just another divorce and still not my concern.

princessofgenovia · January 2015

danamw said:

"Judgey Pants" is a term to be used for a 4 year old, so I reject that right off the bat.
Who doesn't judge? I do! I call it a personal opinion, and I don't force it on anyone. I don't go around spouting my unasked-for opinion on people.
I may think a marriage won't work, for whatever reason, but it isn't up to me to go around saying it. It is up to the couple, and I would be glad if it worked out. If it doesn't, it will be just another divorce and still not my concern.

I'm glad you're so much better then the rest of us.

Finally we have something to strive for.

lyndausvi · January 2015

My personal opinion is people who judge the word judgey pants do not have a sense of humor.

Again, just my personal opinion.

danamw · January 2015

LOL you 2 are so cute!

Judgey rhymes with pudgy. And budgie. And fudgey.

larrygaga · January 2015

Sugargirl1019 said:
Yes lets have a judgey pants bonfire complete with marshmallows!

Not wedding related, but

Our new neighbors just moved in! They are lovely, sweet people and even invited us to their housewarming party on Saturday. Now, note, we are townhomes and very close together, share walls. On Friday night I get home from a terrible day at work (and no sleep the night before, sick puppy) and there are cars parked in front of my driveway (and everywhere up the street). Slightly annoyed but ring the doorbell and ask for so and so to please move their car so I can get into my house. I surprisingly didn't hear any party noise through our walls during the evening. Off to sleep because I'm exhausted and moody.

Then, I was woken up around 5 am by a large group of them standing in their driveway conversing loudly (practically under our bedroom window, because so close together). This was an all night party! Ahhhh! Loud noises outside at 5 am when I was a tired grumpy goose! I'm not in college anymore, I want to get away from these shenanigans! *trying not to be judgey though, because they are great people and I now know this all night party is a norm in their culture* Party on Saturday for lunch still happens and theres a bounce house and tonnnsss of people and food. Awesome! Also decorated to the nines and I'm like I still have boxes in my kitchen whaaat? How did you unpack so fast. Also don't know how you're still up after 24 hours still haha. Judging you because I am tired and still don't have boxes unpacked and you do.. Somehow.. That's what everyone must have been doing Friday night, right?

DH will bring ALL my judgey pants to the bonfire.

What culture

climbingsingle · January 2015

danamw said:
LOL you 2 are so cute!
Judgey rhymes with pudgy. And budgie. And fudgey.

No. Just no, girl. Stahp.

princessofgenovia · January 2015

danamw said:

LOL you 2 are so cute!
Judgey rhymes with pudgy. And budgie. And fudgey.

Are you calling me fat?

levioosa · January 2015

danamw said:

LOL you 2 are so cute!
Judgey rhymes with pudgy. And budgie. And fudgey.

Oh god, not again.

southernbelle0915 · January 2015

I love my judgy pants. And I give no fucks whether I call them judgy pants or whether I say I'm "being judgmental right now". Either way, wtf-ever.

I judge baby names. Hard. Especially right now. It's like people are either super trendy or trying to be really off-beat with weird stuff/spellings. In 10 years, substitute teachers will have half the classroom named Sophia and Jackson and half the class named Daenerys and Graysin.

mikenberger · January 2015

My judgey pants are black yoga pants. Judge away. I also have my side eye glasses on.

My friend is getting married a month after my FI and me. Last night she proclaimed "I didn't put Y on the envelope because I don't like her. She's rude and disrespectful." Y is the long time gf of a mutual friend of ours. 5 years long term. We are both inviting this same mutual friend and on my envelope, I put her name. "You can invite her if you want to.(to your wedding) I'm not. He can decide if he wants to bring her or not." I asked her how she would like being left off the envelope and she stated "He (fiance) could go if he wanted. It wouldn't be in his best interest though to go without me."

Rawr. And all over because the mutual friend's girlfriend doesn't want to be friends with her/us. She's kind of cold and standoffish, but I think that's just her. She's not into small talk and they live 1k+ miles from us, so it's not like we see her all the time. I judged that. Hard. (I think I should though.)

ETA: My has nothing to do with me judgey judge:

A family member of mine has picked up and moved 1200mi from his home to be with a woman. Said woman has a 16yr old daughter. Family member has now purchased a horse, a car, a cell phone, new TV and other misc items for family. HE HASN'T WORKED IN 10 YEARS. And his recent stint at attempting to work, he lasted 5 weeks because he was working 14hr days and couldn't stand to be away from his family for that long during the day.

Boo fucking hoo. They're also that same side sitting couple at a restaurant. EW.

theartistformerlyknownas · January 2015

danamw said:

LOL you 2 are so cute!
Judgey rhymes with pudgy. And budgie. And fudgey.

Well we know who's wearing their bitchy pants today.

Sugargirl1019 · January 2015

@larrygaga‌ With all the most love, I'm not going to say unless you're dyiinnggg to know because what culture they are doesn't have any bearing on the story, truthfully. They told us they celebrate someone buying a new home with 2 days of celebration with friends and family and I didn't ask questions. What do I know?

Although when you're whiney about something, and find out that is something done through tradition, it makes you feel bad for feeling whiney and judgey!

beethery · January 2015

Sugargirl1019 said:

@larrygaga‌ With all the most love, I'm not going to say unless you're dyiinnggg to know because what culture they are doesn't have any bearing on the story, truthfully. They told us they celebrate someone buying a new home with 2 days of celebration with friends and family and I didn't ask questions. What do I know? Although when you're whiney about something, and find out that is something done through tradition, it makes you feel bad for feeling whiney and judgey!

Then why mention it to begin with?

Sugargirl1019 · January 2015

Because as I mentioned, it makes you feel bad when you are whiney and judgey about something and discover it is tradition. I thought that was relatable to the thread.

beethery said:

Sugargirl1019 said:

@larrygaga‌ With all the most love, I'm not going to say unless you're dyiinnggg to know because what culture they are doesn't have any bearing on the story, truthfully. They told us they celebrate someone buying a new home with 2 days of celebration with friends and family and I didn't ask questions. What do I know?

Although when you're whiney about something, and find out that is something done through tradition, it makes you feel bad for feeling whiney and judgey!

Then why mention it to begin with?

beethery · January 2015

Sugargirl1019 said:

Because as I mentioned, it makes you feel bad when you are whiney and judgey about something and discover it is tradition. I thought that was relatable to the thread.

Sugargirl1019 said:

@larrygaga‌ With all the most love, I'm not going to say unless you're dyiinnggg to know because what culture they are doesn't have any bearing on the story, truthfully. They told us they celebrate someone buying a new home with 2 days of celebration with friends and family and I didn't ask questions. What do I know? Although when you're whiney about something, and find out that is something done through tradition, it makes you feel bad for feeling whiney and judgey!

Then why mention it to begin with?

princessofgenovia · January 2015

I'm not aware of any culture that has "all night unpacking party" as part of their culture. I mean, I'm not claiming to know them all. I'm just saying...this sounds like an awesome culture and I'm wondering if I'm missing out on something.

Unpacking is the shit. And not the good shit.

teddygirl9 · January 2015

We will probably have been together for 10+ years before we get married (coming up on 9 and still no ring), so pretty much all of that seems fast haha. I judge everyone, and on alot of things. Most of it stays in my head though

One of my friends' friends, they are ~22 or 23, have been dating for 4 months and are getting married in March. My friend hadn't even met the guy before she was asked to be a bridesmaid in the wedding, which she felt was a bit fast.

NowIamMrsKlein · January 2015

teddygirl9 said:

We will probably have been together for 10+ years before we get married (coming up on 9 and still no ring), so pretty much all of that seems fast haha. I judge everyone, and on alot of things. Most of it stays in my head though

One of my friends' friends, they are ~22 or 23, have been dating for 4 months and are getting married in March. My friend hadn't even met the guy before she was asked to be a bridesmaid in the wedding, which she felt was a bit fast.

One of my bridesmaids has never met my FI, and we've been together 3 years. However we live in BC, Canada and she lives in Boston, so it kinda makes sense....

teddygirl9 · January 2015

Yeah, haha. She lives in Alberta, but the friend is back in Florida, however she visited twice since they'd been dating, but she was never introduced. She was just surprised at how serious they became I guess.

larrygaga · January 2015

Sugargirl1019 said:

@larrygaga‌ With all the most love, I'm not going to say unless you're dyiinnggg to know because what culture they are doesn't have any bearing on the story, truthfully. They told us they celebrate someone buying a new home with 2 days of celebration with friends and family and I didn't ask questions. What do I know? Although when you're whiney about something, and find out that is something done through tradition, it makes you feel bad for feeling whiney and judgey!

I'm a regular american born white girl with the same "culture" as you, most likely, and my family always helps me move in, unpack and we celebrate. It could be that your neighbors have an awesome family, like mine, who are helpful, supportive and loving.

Your posts only helps propagate the stereotype that everyone in texas is a racist. Must just be a texas cultural thing, eh?

princessofgenovia · January 2015

larrygaga said:

Sugargirl1019 said:

@larrygaga‌ With all the most love, I'm not going to say unless you're dyiinnggg to know because what culture they are doesn't have any bearing on the story, truthfully. They told us they celebrate someone buying a new home with 2 days of celebration with friends and family and I didn't ask questions. What do I know? Although when you're whiney about something, and find out that is something done through tradition, it makes you feel bad for feeling whiney and judgey!

I'm a regular american born white girl with the same "culture" as you, most likely, and my family always helps me move in, unpack and we celebrate. It could be that your neighbors have an awesome family, like mine, who are helpful, supportive and loving.

Your posts only helps propagate the stereotype that everyone in texas is a racist. Must just be a texas cultural thing, eh?

My family will help me move but they won't help me unpack.

Can I borrow your family?

larrygaga · January 2015

princessofgenovia

Yes. My mom will literally make my bed for me to have a nice cozy first night. It's pretty amazing.

lyndausvi · January 2015

When I move (and it's been a lot of times), I'm 90% unpacked, with things hanging on the wall by the end of the first weekend I'm there. If I move it in the beginning of the week it's even sooner. I do not mess around with boxes. I can't stand them. The only things not unpacked are normally seasonal things like Christmas decorations. Those boxes are nicely stacked in a closet or garage easily accessible when the time is needed.

My mom, who has moved some 20+ times included 4 international moves, told me once "the thought of unpacking is way worse then actually unpacking". I find that to be true. The longer you put it off the harder the task becomes. Once you actually do the task you will find it didn't take nearly as much time as you think it was going to take.

flutteringinfl · January 2015

lyndausvi said:

When I move (and it's been a lot of times), I'm 90% unpacked, with things hanging on the wall by the end of the first weekend I'm there. If I move it in the beginning of the week it's even sooner. I do not mess around with boxes. I can't stand them. The only things not unpacked are normally seasonal things like Christmas decorations. Those boxes are nicely stacked in a closet or garage easily accessible when the time is needed.

My mom, who has moved some 20+ times included 4 international moves, told me once "the thought of unpacking is way worse then actually unpacking". I find that to be true. The longer you put it off the harder the task becomes. Once you actually do the task you will find it didn't take nearly as much time as you think it was going to take.

Every time I think about how much I hate unpacking, I think about that scene in Hot Fuzz where Simon Pegg asks Nick Frost when he moved in, since there are unpacked boxes everywhere, and he says, "Five years ago." That could very easily be me. It has been me.

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