Judgey Pants

penguin44

princessofgenovia said:

My sassy shorts make my ass look better than my judgey pants do.

I'm judging my BFF so fucking hard right now. And it's so wrong, but I just can't stop. She just got married in December. I swear she got married only because she wanted to get married before she was 25 (she'll be 25 in August). He's a nice guy and all, I just don't get their relationship. They argue all the fucking time. They really don't seem to like each other. But she's like "No, getting married is great, I'm so glad I got married". I just think they rushed into everything. They got engaged after 3 months. Neither has really lived on their own. 

I'm also judging that they're talking about moving back in with her mom. They both work, but they took easy low paying jobs. I swear I don't think either of them works more then 32 hours a week. And they just bought him a new car. So now they need to move back in with her mom to save money. Her mom is not thrilled but is going along with it.

I'm just like...grow the fuck up. I love you. But seriously. It's time to grow up.

My BFF did something similar a couple of years ago. I'm still worried about her. They are out on their own now out of necessity, but she doesn't do many things by herself.

Inkdancer

Right now I am judging the fuck out of my mom's BFF. We all three went to lunch, and she asked me about married life. I told her we're quite happy. 

She proceeded to word-vomit about her marriage and all the lazy, sexist bullshit her husband does. And also her daughters' husbands. And kept saying "men are just like that, you'll see when you've been married for longer."

I wanted to punch her. She got engaged to her husband after one week of knowing him. They've been married for 35 years, but those years have sometimes been horrible and difficult. And I just want to say to her, "no, not all men are like that. You just modeled a shitty relationship for your daughters, and they did what they thought was normal. People who actually take their time and have standards can overcome all this stuff you're complaining about."

I bit my tongue. My mom called me after the lunch to apologize for her friend. Shitting all over happy newlyweds with your issues is just rude. 

VulgarGirl

Inkdancer said:

Right now I am judging the fuck out of my mom's BFF. We all three went to lunch, and she asked me about married life. I told her we're quite happy. 

She proceeded to word-vomit about her marriage and all the lazy, sexist bullshit her husband does. And also her daughters' husbands. And kept saying "men are just like that, you'll see when you've been married for longer."

I wanted to punch her. She got engaged to her husband after one week of knowing him. They've been married for 35 years, but those years have sometimes been horrible and difficult. And I just want to say to her, "no, not all men are like that. You just modeled a shitty relationship for your daughters, and they did what they thought was normal. People who actually take their time and have standards can overcome all this stuff you're complaining about."

I bit my tongue. My mom called me after the lunch to apologize for her friend. Shitting all over happy newlyweds with your issues is just rude. 

I hate this shit. I get people telling me "it's gotta be nice to be married to a woman because then you don't have to put with ___" and you can fill in the blank with whatever shitty thing "all men" do.

Um, no. Not all men are shitty husbands. Yours might be. But my dad is a good husband, I'm sure my brothers will be (if they so choose to get married). Because they aren't shitty men. Good men make good husbands who do good things. Good women make good wives who do good things. Good people make good partners who do good things. Gender has fuck all to do with it.

sophhabobopha

I buy my judgey pants in XL so I have room to grow.

I'm so fucking judgy. It's awful. Fi and I have been together since I was 17, and when we marry I'll be 21. You bet your sweet ass I judge other young couples.

climbingsingle

I'm a total judgy beyotch. H and I got engaged after 5 months, but I'm totally judging our friend that's moving WAY too fast with a girl. He was talking about proposing to her after one month. She's 29 and has never lived on her own. She moved into his house from her mom and dad's after 6 weeks of dating. And I know that things can work out when they move quickly. I'm proof. But this girl just gives me a really bad feeling. She's always posting pictures of engagement rings on FB. The whole thing is just yeeeeeeesh. 

Also, this particular friend just emailed me asking me if I can get him a discount at the humongous resort we got married at. When I told him no, he was all, "I thought you knew someone there."

1. We worked with only their wedding coordinator 

2. Why don't you plan your own wedding there. Then you'll get a discount. 

3. If I had access to a discount, I'm pretty sure I'd use it for myself. 

levioosa

Inkdancer said:

Right now I am judging the fuck out of my mom's BFF. We all three went to lunch, and she asked me about married life. I told her we're quite happy. 

She proceeded to word-vomit about her marriage and all the lazy, sexist bullshit her husband does. And also her daughters' husbands. And kept saying "men are just like that, you'll see when you've been married for longer."

I wanted to punch her. She got engaged to her husband after one week of knowing him. They've been married for 35 years, but those years have sometimes been horrible and difficult. And I just want to say to her, "no, not all men are like that. You just modeled a shitty relationship for your daughters, and they did what they thought was normal. People who actually take their time and have standards can overcome all this stuff you're complaining about."

I bit my tongue. My mom called me after the lunch to apologize for her friend. Shitting all over happy newlyweds with your issues is just rude. 

Ugh.  My Mom does this all. the. time.  "All men do ________.  When you're married, forget about _____.  Men will always act like ______."  No, Mom, just because Dad can be an ass sometimes does not mean all men are this way. 

As far as the OP question, I have to try hard not to judge short relationships, but that's usually because my intuition is right on with them.  Yay we're engaged after a month, but he has a drinking and gambling problem?  Judging (and concerned if it's a friend).  Engaged after a month but both parties are mature and stable?  I might hold a few reservations still, but hey, if they found the person, I'm not going to hate on them for it. 

NowIamMrsKlein

levioosa said:

Inkdancer said:

Right now I am judging the fuck out of my mom's BFF. We all three went to lunch, and she asked me about married life. I told her we're quite happy. 

She proceeded to word-vomit about her marriage and all the lazy, sexist bullshit her husband does. And also her daughters' husbands. And kept saying "men are just like that, you'll see when you've been married for longer."

I wanted to punch her. She got engaged to her husband after one week of knowing him. They've been married for 35 years, but those years have sometimes been horrible and difficult. And I just want to say to her, "no, not all men are like that. You just modeled a shitty relationship for your daughters, and they did what they thought was normal. People who actually take their time and have standards can overcome all this stuff you're complaining about."

I bit my tongue. My mom called me after the lunch to apologize for her friend. Shitting all over happy newlyweds with your issues is just rude. 

Ugh.  My Mom does this all. the. time.  "All men do ________.  When you're married, forget about _____.  Men will always act like ______."  No, Mom, just because Dad can be an ass sometimes does not mean all men are this way. 

Our friends have this attitude with their children. Kid is running around screaming and knocking shit off coffee table with no care for anyones property. Parents just sit back and be like "Kids will be kids. You'll see one day, theres nothing you can do, its just the way it is"

Oh hell no. You're just being a lazy parent. My non existent future children would not dare to run around a friends house with blatant disregard.

l9i

SoontobeMrsKlein said:

levioosa said:

Inkdancer said:

Right now I am judging the fuck out of my mom's BFF. We all three went to lunch, and she asked me about married life. I told her we're quite happy. 

She proceeded to word-vomit about her marriage and all the lazy, sexist bullshit her husband does. And also her daughters' husbands. And kept saying "men are just like that, you'll see when you've been married for longer."

I wanted to punch her. She got engaged to her husband after one week of knowing him. They've been married for 35 years, but those years have sometimes been horrible and difficult. And I just want to say to her, "no, not all men are like that. You just modeled a shitty relationship for your daughters, and they did what they thought was normal. People who actually take their time and have standards can overcome all this stuff you're complaining about."

I bit my tongue. My mom called me after the lunch to apologize for her friend. Shitting all over happy newlyweds with your issues is just rude. 

Ugh.  My Mom does this all. the. time.  "All men do ________.  When you're married, forget about _____.  Men will always act like ______."  No, Mom, just because Dad can be an ass sometimes does not mean all men are this way. 

Our friends have this attitude with their children. Kid is running around screaming and knocking shit off coffee table with no care for anyones property. Parents just sit back and be like "Kids will be kids. You'll see one day, theres nothing you can do, its just the way it is"

Oh hell no. You're just being a lazy parent. My non existent future children would not dare to run around a friends house with blatant disregard.

QFT

We had all our extended family over at house for Christmas including DH's two little cousins (4 & 5).  I feel like I was maybe one of the only ones watching them and picking up after them bc I didn't want our house destroyed, they are like a tornado anywhere they go.  I think more poor dog was actually terrorized by them lol