I am getting married in January and just found out that I am in a tight spot about the wedding showers.... So here it goes.
My future mother in law has been starting to plan my shower. She was planning on having one big shower but was waiting to really start planning until my sister who is my MOH, came back from a couple of months out of state. She wants to have it in November since by then my fiance's Yia Yia will be in the States. She knows my sister can't afford to do a shower by herself and wanted to pull their forces and finances together. She even has the place picked out. But again was waiting for more details until my sister came back.
My sister knew that my FMIL was waiting to speak to her about doing a shower. My sister dropped the bomb last night that she had already started plans on her own separate shower. She wants to do one in our backyard for my family and friends. She said that she has already started planning the whole thing and won't do one big shower. She isn't doing it because it will be too big of a shower ( we are inviting 365 to our wedding). She just wants to have one that she does and says she doesn't care if my FMIL gets "butt hurt" (her words, not mine) over it. I feel like she is just doing this out of spite. She doesn't like my fiance's culture and doesn't want to do anything that might include it, even though the shower won't be about that at all. *sigh*
My fiance's family has done nothing but be warm and inviting to my sisters and I. They already make us feel feel that we are included in the family. I know that this will hurt both my FMIL and fiance's feelings that my sister is going to do this. And my sister doesn't seem to care.
I see that having two showers might be a good idea. It won't be a 4 hour shower and it will be a little more intimate. However, I like the idea of having one shower and bringing everyone together at least once before the wedding. I love both my FMIL and my sister ( although she is proving to be a big pain in the butt with all the wedding stuff) and I don't want to hurt either of them.
Help! Any thoughts or suggestions?