We have decided to do a sand ceremony instead of the unity candle since this is a 2nd marriage for us both. Our children are older (21, 17, 16) and we want them all be a part of this ceremony for personal reasons. Our predicament is what colors do we use? We are purchasing the picture vessel and will use a pic of all 5 of us from the wedding. Do we let each boy pick out their own colors and hope they go well together or do we choose the colors we want and let them decide what color they want from that? I suspect with their ages they won't care one way or the other but we feel it's important they are given some option.