My godmother recently offered to pay for my wedding dress - which is so generous of her! I wasn't expecting that, and have fully budgeted for everything on my own. I found one I liked, and asked her her come with me when I tried it on again, thinking that if she also liked it, that would be something to check off the list.
Not only did she hate the dress, but she insisted that I try on dresses for hours that are completely not me. I'm looking for something simple, classic, and elegant (for a garden wedding), and she was pulling out 80lb princess gowns covered in fake jewels and sequins. Which can be gorgeous, but not what I'm comfortable in.
I've had a difficult time wedding dress shopping in general (I have tough proportions for most common dress necklines, and look super boxy in most), and this left me feeling defeated... I may have gone home and cried to FI about feeling like a failure as a woman because I couldn't pick out a damn dress. Okay, I know, chill TFO Bizzy, it's just a dress.
Anyway, I've decided to have one made. There's a lovely dressmaker in town who is confident that she can make the simple dress that I'm hoping for. But I'm not sure what to do about my godmother - if I include her in this process I know she'll hate what I'm going with. But if I go ahead with it, and pay for the dress myself without including her, she'll likely feel slighted.