I initially asked my older sister if she wanted to be my MOH. At the time, I didn't put much thought into it. Later on, I realized that maybe it would be best if she wasn't in the bridal party, so I told her nicely that I'm sorry but we decided we only wanted it to be friends. I know, it was my wrong to ask her in the first place, but she was so offended and told me she was so hurt that I would not want her in my bridal party. So, eventually I said FINE, you can be my MOH.
Fast forward 8 months later, it is 2 months til the wedding, and she has literally helped me with NOTHING. I'm probably one of the most laid back brides ever, so it's not like I'm asking her for a ton of help. All I ask for are her opinions, for her to respond to a few texts a week, no biggie. She is doing one huge thing for me, which I appreciate a LOT, but it's almost like she thinks that since she's doing that, she doesn't need to help with anything else. She has not even once mentioned a bachelorette party, bridal shower, etc. I don't need them so I haven't said anything, but I don't think she gets the concept of a bridesmaid, let alone MOH. My other friends who aren't even in the bridal party are stepping up to fill the void. Until there, fine. She has a really stressful job and has been very busy, so if she's too busy, that's fine. FINE.
But now she's demanding a certain kind of bridesmaid dress, and I can't take it. I already have a package with the bridesmaids dresses included. The wedding shop does not have a dress like that, and I explained it to her. I would have to pay $$$ to get everyone's dresses elsewhere, and my FI and I don't have a huge budget.
I'm trying to figure out how we can have a win-win situation, but it is so difficult to talk to her. She never answers my phone calls and she'll respond to my texts sporadically and then just stop responding in the middle of a conversation. No response the next day or the following... basically no response til I text her again.
I know she'll flip out if I ask her to step down as my bridesmaid, but she's probably the worst MOH ever and is stressing me out. Is it worth (probably) fighting with her the month before the wedding? Or do I put up with her snarky ways until the wedding?