HELP! Future mother-in-law trying to ruin wedding

aross23

Hi ladies, I need some help and reassurance. My future mother-in-law, who I do not have great feelings for right now is currently on vacation in Orlando. She decided to take a little stroll over to Anna Maria Island to "scope out" our reception/ceremony location (we booked with Sand Petal Weddings and we chose to have our reception in the tiki hut at Gulf Drive Cafe). So anyways, she calls my fiance today being so negative, saying that the tiki hut is very small (about as big as her living room, which is not big at all), saying that it is in a horrible location because it is on the main drag, she said the place smelled like fish really bad, and that the beach is hardly big enough to get married on. P.S. - We never asked her to go look at it in this first place! UGH! We are taking a risk to begin with booking at a place we have not seen (we live in Pennsylvania) and with her calling and being all negative, it really has me down. It's not that I trust her judgement or value her opinion....but I just need that reassurance! Any knotties out there who have visited this place or had theur weddings there? Any input? Thanks girls.

teachermegs

I have been there for breakfast and is she thinking you are having it in restaurant part? Yes that is small, but the hut out side is big.
How many people are you having?
It is on the main road, but the have planted some palm between it and the road.

I got married at the Sandbar on Anna Maria and it is smaller than the Tiki Hut.

About the fish smell, it is on the beach.

Let me know what else you need to know.

SNCarter82

Im sorry you are having to deal with this when it should be a happy planning time. My future mother-n-law can be somewhat of a nightmare as well. She works for the bank that my FI and I have, and I found out that she looked at what we were spending for our wedding and paying our vendors. Although I know I could get her in trouble, she is also my FIs mother, and I would feel bad. It is a constant fight though.

I would tell her that although you appreciate her checking into the place, it is a decision that both you and your FI are going to make. Do you possibly no anyone down there that can take several pictures of the place to send you so that you can see the area from different angles?

Remember, this is your day with your FI and it should be a place that you want to have it at. There is always someone that is going to have an opinion about something. Ive learned its almost impossible to make everyone happy. So just make sure you and your FI are the ones that are happy. Good Luck with everything!

aross23

To tell you the truth....I have no idea what she is thinking. She did say it was the "tiki hut" that was as small as her living room. I called and talked to someone there last night because I was starting to panic and they assured me it is 70ft x 30 ft. We are having anywhere from 80-100 people. Probably more towards 80. Yeah, online I saw the picture that has the palm trees between the tiki and the road. I mean, I wasn't crazy about it being on a main road...but it wasn't a deal breaker for me. I really don't mind. So it frustrates me that she isn't even reporting accurate facts. Anyways, that is what is bothering me...this is suppose to be an exciting time and she is just ruining it for barging over there to "scope it out." Unfortunately I do not know anyone down there that could take pictures for us. And that's another thing....she wouldn't dare take pictures to even show us! She just wants to criticize.
WOW, your future MIL sounds like a nightmare too. That is crazy! Sometimes I just feel like certain people just hate to see others happy, whether it is their son and future DIL or NOT! It really is a shame. Thanks so much girls. I really appreciate it and it was also nice talking to someone who has been there.

Kristin789

First of all, if you FMIL calls your FI and says ANYTHING like that, your FI should shut her down immediately.

He should say, "Look mom, I know you are concerned about this because you just took your own time to go over there.  But this wedding is being hosted by Mr. and Mrs. BRIDE, and I'm sure they worked with BRIDE to get these details all set just right."

And if his mom still wanted to rant, he should have said, "Look mom, if you want to talk about this some more, you need to call Mr. BRIDE.  He's the one signing the contracts.  I understand he's home after 6:30 every weeknight.  Call then."

(It's been my experience that when faced with calling the officiant or calling the bride's parents, that the FMIL will just let it go.)

And then FI shouldn't have told you all about this.  He needs to shut down / handle his own family issues.  They are HIS family and he's known them his whole life.  HE needs to deal with this.