Okay so I have an extremely large family... mother is one of 17, and I have close to 75 cousins on one side. In the past my older cousins have made the "cut-off" 21 and over (meaning no cousins under 21 are invited). Now that I am getting married there are even more "over 21 year old" cousins (obviously as more time goes on everyone will be over 21). Our budget/venue is not large enough to accommodate inviting all cousins, its also not big enough to accommodate all cousins over 21 (plus their SO's). What do you think an appropriate "cut-off" (dislike this word) is? My fiancé and I (and my parents) have been contemplating only married cousins; this decreases the amount drastically (very helpful for us). But is this considered rude?
I would love to get your thoughts/advice.