Hi so long story short. We are having my bachelorette this weekend and at 130 am (i work nights) my fsil texted me to ask if her husband and herself could stay at our house this weekend. I of course said yes has they are both attending our bachelor/bachelorette party. Out of curiosity I asked about their 4mo. Apparently my fmil has agreed to drive in for 2 hours to watch their baby at my house. Mind you no one asked my fiance or me. They are from out of state and I understand they are first time parents. I am just shocked. We are having a real bachelorette party with about 10 of my friends and I am worried about presents the girls will get me and games we were planning on playing at my house before leaving. Not to mention game plan for both parties was to come back and have people sober up at our house or crash.
ON TOP OF THIS.... our wedding is adult only 2.5 hours away. We are at a hotel winter resort. We were hoping their 5mo would stay with their grandparents but they are bringing her. They were gonna have one of my fiancee favorite aunts hold the baby during the ceremony but our ceremony is on 20 minutes. We asked for them to bring a babysitter of their choosing and we would pay for a hotel or their meal at the reception. We requested the baby not be present for the ceremony, toasts, and first dances. Now they want to bring their babysitters husband as well. We went from an all adult wedding to a baby sometimes which was meeting in the middle but I feel like we be been more than willing to compromise. They make snide comments all the time about us living together first or that family all family should be at the wedding. It was my fiancee rule that no kids should be at the wedding. What should we do? Every time we talk about why we don't want the baby at our wedding we get shot down. Both parents are in the party. We asked before we found out they were pregnant. Halp!