Hi Ladies!
I want to start by saying that I LOVE LOVE LOVE my fiance. He is 100% the man that God has selected to be my forever partner and we are getting married no matter what.
My question pertains more to the circumstances around my wedding. I've had two bridesmaids quit for various reasons, and we had a major falling out with my in-laws a few months back. They've never liked me and have repeatedly put pressure on my fiance to break it off with me. The pressure from them was so bad that he didn't tell them he was proposing ahead of time. Shortly after we were engaged, we moved in together for a variety of reasons. His parents found out through mutual friends. They waited until the end of our wedding planning trip, after spending thousands on vendor deposits and the trip itself, to confront him on our sin. At that time his mother demanded that we elope to "get right with God"... or else we needed to go our separate ways because "Grandfather so-and-so was seduced by his wife and I just see so much of that situation here and you know it's never too late." After confronting him, she confronted me - told me I "bore no fruits of the spirit" and that "if I couldn't stay pure before marriage, how could I stay pure after?" Among other things... Other verbal assaults have been launched (on their end, never ours) since then. They have begged him to come home, begged him to reconsider, implored us to "make it right", and then gone all over town insisting that they have no idea why we don't speak to them. I could go on about that for days but trying to keep this short. (I should add that his parents' particular denomination preaches that purity is the key to salvation and that my pre-married use of my lady bits makes me an unsuitable bride, never mind where the man has been prior to marriage. I'm not like evil or anything, just modern like most of you ladies.)
We've weathered that storm and resolved to rest in our truth and hold on to what this event is really about - us spending forever together. We were bolstered by my parents' unwavering support and love. Now, we are less than two months from the wedding any my mom found out that my dad has been engaging in unsavory behavior that is an unconfirmed affair (calls to strange numbers in the middle of the night, disappearing in the middle of the work day, constantly deleting all his texts, etc). She left him a few days ago to get her head and heart straight.
There is a part of me that wants to push through simply because we are already about $25k into this thing, and I don't want to alert the extended family and our friends to any issues. I'm devastated that our wedding has been commandeered by ridiculous family drama and our parents' inability to hold it together and just let us cross the finish line. We've debated cancelling everything, taking the money loss, and eloping just us and trying to reclaim a shred of wedding joy.
Thoughts? Should we cancel?